by Zoumana Coulibaly

Created on: January 05, 2009

Loneliness is one thing we all have in common. As human being, most of us have that need to be lonely. Some are constantly lonely and, unfortunately, falling into depression. Loneliness can be healthy in one hand and dangerous in the other.

It hurts deeply when that special someone you love is not with you; it hurts deeply when you do not know how to keep in touch with others; it hurts deeply when no one is there for you while you are there for others. Meanwhile, the lonely should not be ashamed but proud of himself or herself for there is nothing wrong in acknowledging that one is lonely. Remember, intrinsically, you have never been lonely because your soul and inner self have always been with you. You have done nothing wrong and should live your life to the fullest. If possible, try not to be aside and out of touch. It surely is not easy to make the first step, but be open for that first step to happen either from you or others.

You are lonely because you do not fit in; you are lonely because you are different from others. This is probably due to your need for reflection and/or self knowledge which is salutary. Or, your mindset makes you that different person very few can understand. In any case, do not at all change your nature for the sake of being with someone. The result of that unnatural behavior will be depression and ultimately suicide.

Loneliness can become an habit. Indeed, you were used to spend those days and nights with no one but yourself. Thus, you will find it strange and unusual to have someone next to you spending the rest of your life with. Hopefully, that someone will be there for you as i am sure you were and are there for her or him.

It takes time and patience to get to know someone and especially accept that someone for who he or she is. Therefore, those that are not lonely have difficulties understanding how an individual constantly turning to himself fells; in majority, the non lonely are not there for complete strangers who need attention.

Small things have sometimes huge impacts and the lonely knows that. Waking up in the morning and not having anyone to say hello to hurts; eating breakfast or dinner without having that healthy mental conversation can be devastating; not having anyone to watch that movie or football game with and laugh and scream with is heart breaking. Thus, the lonely is prompt to help any stranger who needs it; the lonely will be one of the first to smile to that unknown person and open or hold the door for that person among others.

The lonely understands better the importance of human relationship and how big those small acts are. Let us all make those small but highly important actions because a billion of those small acts toward each other can have big repercussion for humanity.

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