by Jay Bee

Created on: January 04, 2009

How do we raise a drug free teen? Being honest and being there fore them from the start. Many teens have to go through peer pressure. We should learn and find out how to take them over this obsitcle even if we experienced it! If you are a parent who has been through a rough teen life or drugs and alcohol let it be known that there is a way out and that's not to get into this in the first place why should teens have to experience this? What does our environment produce in America wether you are in the suburbs or the getto?

Some parents think that what they were taught should be passed onto the children. I say yes as long as you pass it on into the times of what you are dealing with. If you grew up in the 1950-1980's well times have change the same techniques that worked or didn't work with you should have an upgrade. I have learned with in this lifetime that if things don't go your way learn to be a little creative with life.

Creativity with keeping teens drug free means keeping the communication open from the start and also having an understanding of respect for the parents and themselves. Peer pressure can be delt with by knowledge and intervetion. If you see signs of your child/children following the crowd do what you can to reassert the situation. Become involved with what is reality not your reality but your child's reality. Your reality might be past history but they live in the now!

Find out more about the company they keep. Find out more about how sexuall they feel about the opposite or same gender, find out more about their friends parents and were they like to go if they become angry and what are they interested in. If a parent does not know their child's favorite color, food, hang outs, thoughts, or were they want to go in life- this means that you are very much not aware of what your child will end up or what he/she is going through.

As a parent it is not about you any more it is about the future, your children, what ever you went through process it and move on so you can become a good parent for your children. Times are different there is no need of bringing baggage to the table when you are responisible for teen.

Yes, be willing to give them the best wether you had it or not. NOt by spoiling them but by showing them the wheel of life by practicing the universal law. What goes around comes around and what you give out into the world you shall receive.

If you felt like you were or was a bad parent in the past it is not too late for you. This is the time were processing, exceptance, forgiveness, and willing to do the right thing for you and you teen comes in at. Have courage to do what is best for your teen from day one and if all doesn't go well take a look at yourself and ask are you the cause, working too much, not dealing with them enough to know how they are and always correcting them, or simply not taking the responsibility of being there for them.

If your child or teen has a dream to be something good or famous your support and acknowledgement is worth it to help them stay strong and follow through on their journey. We do not want to go before our children almost most of the time but we want to go before them and let our teens survive through us.

We can't shelter our teens from the evil in the world but we can make sure we prepare them for it! And if it's a fight that needs to take place well then fight for you teen because one day he/she may become a parent too.

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