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Marriage, at the bottom line, is a union at all levels of being, between two consenting adults. If the couple concerned are spiritually aware, this union is also blessed and protected by higher forces. In the wedding ceremony itself it states quite clearly "Those which God hath joined together, let no man rend asunder". Even if the marriage is not a church one those words are still relevant. There is nothing more likely to rend a marriage asunder than a load of rules and regulations as to how the individuals concerned work out their life together.

Marriage for life is the aim for most people when they tie the knot. It is a full and whole hearted commitment to stay together through thick and thin. Those are the vows that are taken at the ceremony. To be drawing up plans for the ending of the union before the wedding has even taken place does seem to imply the commitment is a little half hearted to say the least. To be forced to do so by law casts a negative expectation over the future of the relationship.

Life is long and full of change. One of the qualities needed to survive through times of change and uncertaintity is flexibilitiy. In the past marriage was for many people like a prison in which they were surrounded by the high walls of convention and expectation. Yet a good and honest marriage is like a beautiful painting, lovingly envisaged and created by the two individuals concerened. It needs to evolve and change as the the people who make it grow and change. It needs to bend with the winds of fortune and flow with the tides of life. Some of the most growthful times are accompanied by conflict and tension. There is a need for the partners to be together and sometimes a need for them to be apart. Each marriage s a very individual arrangement which changes over time and each couple deals with the challenges in their own unique way. There is no need for married people to be trapped in roles which they no longer feel comfortable in or be chained by rules and regultions which serve to prevent movement and growth.

If the couple find they no longer wish to be together then that is fine and maybe the purpose of their marriage has been fulfilled. To be then bound by an agreement they were forced to make years ago when they were young, before children and all the other responsibilities of adult life and which might not be in the slightest bit relevant to the current circumstances of the individuals concerned, could be inconvenient at best and tragic at worst.

Naturally,

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