by Natasha Ooh

Created on: January 03, 2009

It's easy to justify hitting a child by saying you came from an abusive childhood. In fact it's done often; in courts if you were to be questioned on the accusations of domestic violence and child abuse, and you replied about being a victim yourself, the court tends to swing to your side. Why? Based on the ignorant ideology of abused becoming abusers. Does it make it right?

I can easily say that because i grew up in a emotionally degrading background, physically beaten, mentally abused and a case of physical sexual abuse i would not wish the torment on any offspring of my own or on any child. I would also never physically abuse or attack a partner by tormenting them with any other forms of abuse. Simply because i would not wish the feelings i had on anyone else. To some degree it's understandable how people comment about past experience being the initiative for their own... forgive me if this is offensive to those people, but to my own understanding, you may not be aware of right and wrong for that period of time, but you do understand how the actions of that abuser makes you feel. Therefore even in a state where you feel so tormented, belittled, confused and angry etc. Would you consciously make a decision to hurt you're child or partner based on previous beatings?

Here're some questions for you: If there was no publication of the idea of the abused becoming the abuser.. would as many people abuse their family? Would as many children feel so hopeless in themselves, their ability to finish school... commit suicide... stay alone? It's a very influential thing this media, something that a vulnerable mind may religiously follow after it has been forced to listen and generally believe the dominating agressive comments from an abuser. What about this idea of negative press being the best selling point? You tell the people that abused 'victims' are more likely to abuse others, and you have a story to read, full of meat... you write a story saying the victims live happily ever after, they hurt no one and wheres the profit? Again it's my own opinion... but it's the media, the best story sells and be honest how many of you readers prefer the happy endings in your news paper? Although there is always the case of the bully being bullied. The cry for help. I guess it depends on your own views and opinions as to whether you feel this theory falls into domestic violence. As for my own? You become a bully if you allow yourself to fall into the category of never believing in

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