Too many times couples enter into marriage under the wrong pretences. Each person thinks they deserve to get more out of their relationship than the other can realistically give to them. Misconceptions are formed and assumed that the more you put into a relationship the more you will get in return. Unfortunately, it doesn't always work that way.
What you deserve in a martial relationship is love, attention, and for your partner to hold an attraction towards you (even when you're wrinkled and old).
All these things were promised during the vow you and your spouse made on your wedding day. It probably went something like this, "To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part."
Maintaining a martial relationship is no cake walk. It's more like the innings of a baseball game where you never know where each pitch will take you or if you'll simply strike out. But, one thing is for certain, you deserve to have your partner uphold their wedding vows. Like you, your partner is out there swinging for your love, and attention.
Sometimes, we become so caught up in the game that we forget someone else is on our team pinch hitting for us.
Love is a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude towards another, which grows into an intense emotional attachment. Everyone has a different way of expressing emotions. Make sure, you understand your partner's way of demonstrating their love. If you don't think you're getting enough love, talk to your partner. Find out ways both of you can reciprocate this feeling in a mutual satisfying way. As a married couple, you and your spouse should strive to have special bond that is unbreakable.
Life has a way of veering us in directions we've never been before. We get lost in our careers, our children, and our self goals. Then we stand in the middle of a cross roads one day looking back and trying to figure out how we got left behind. It's a lonely, attention deprived, road, and our spouses won't be able to keep up with us. So they find their own path.
It takes time to be given time, and when you make time for your spouse, you make time for yourself. You both get the attention you deserve. It may take a little scheduling like a weekly meeting at the dining room table, or a date night with a good movie and some popcorn. Both you and your spouse won't feel attention deprived anymore.
When you first met your spouse there was a mutual attraction. You found their eyes alluring. You couldn't keep yourself from fantasying about them when they weren't there. There was some kind of physical feature that seemed to perk your interest. Perhaps it was their witty humor or the way they always could find you in a crowd.
Time changes all things, including people. Both you and your spouse deserve to keep the flame of attraction burning in your marriage. If the old attraction has faded, chin up, there are new ones to discover. Marriage, like a good wine, goes through a period of festering and gets better with age. You might not find your spouse's witty humor so appealing anymore, but the way they wiggle their eyebrows makes you laugh.
Don't allow misconceptions of marriage to void you of a loving, attention filled, and attraction holding relationship.