by Jai Li

Created on: January 02, 2009

The thought of having sex before marriage troubles me. I cannot think of having sex outside marriage and I do not promote it either. Sex is something very sacred and something that should be between the true loving of two couples.

One thing I have noticed about the world is that almost everything is geared toward sex in some way because as the world says "Sex Sells." A man or a woman who waits till marriage to engage in sexual activity to me has very good self control and clearness of the mind.

Diving into the realm of spirituality, God has always stated that you should not have a consummation outside marriage and for good reason. In those days people actually took the time out to get to know each other and then engaged in marriage. Sex was only a means of intimate affection and procreation and there was not that much emphasis on it.

It seems though, that today the world is sexually driven into telling people that sex before marriage is all right and it really is not The whole point of marriage is to bring two together as one and sex after marriage compliments this.This is what also leads to a lot of divorces since people engage in sexual activity without really truly knowing each other as scripture states.

When two people engage in sex, they become one. Sex with a stranger or random person is just not how it's supposed to be.

This is why some women and men are left feeling as if something is missing after certain sexual experiences with someone who they thought they loved. Not to mention that there are all kinds of risky STDs and such if one engages in faulty sexual encounters outside marriage.

Also, today men are praised for there sexual encounters and women are downgraded for even thinking of being with another guy. This just shows you all the more of how society is jacked up on its ideals on sex. As I've stated I am not condoning it because either way male or female you should not have sex before or outside of marriage .

Waiting will be a truly delighting experience that both virgin lovers can experience and share together. What feeling is greater than knowing that your loved one is going threw the same thing as you and completing the meaning of true love and intimacy together as one?

I know most people do not feel this way but I believe that sex outside marriage should not be praised or exalted at all. Remember, getting to know someone in intimacy means to know the very secrecy of their body. Every crack and crevice and emotion of a true loving connection.

With a stranger it just leaves a desire to entertain more random people and never amounts to anything really. All that is gained is a temporary sense of satisfaction which leaves the person desperately seeking more bodies to desire over and that is not true love or completion at all.

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