Seduction is a skill. It's the ability to cloak a man into a woman's awe, and then make him surrender all control over his own faculties. People say it's easy. But it's not. Any woman can get a man to f$%k her. But getting a man to the point where he wants to have satin-sheet-searing sex with you, complete with all of the passion that lovemaking brings, takes a hand-crafted, yet natural flow of events to occur.
So let's tackle the oxymoron first. How can you hand-craft something yet make it natural? The answer lies in your personal level of competence and sensuality. What is, and is not, comfortable. Sure you want spontaneity, but within the confines of how far you are willing to perform. If not, you lose control, along with your chance to shine. For example, if you're a great cook, then fix a meal. That's natural. But the key is to find out what his favorite food is, and exactly how he likes it cooked. Don't waiver. Yet if you feel really crafty, find out what his favorite meal is from his childhood and cook that with a certain twist, whatever you can come up with under your little chefs' hat. But be careful. Mess up Mama's cooking and the night will be ruined. Of course this is an example. You must plan your own sequence of events and activities. But also show a little flexibility. Part of successfully gaining control is having the ability to relinquish a little of it.
OK. The evening has been planned. What's next? Nothing says "I want you all over me" more than nice lingerie. Again, the same concept of comfort can be applied to wardrobe, ambiance, etc. Beauty is not defined by size. But if you are not completely comfortable with your body, don't put on anything too revealing. Even if being bigger doesn't faze him, it will directly affect your confidence, so don't go there. Wear something sexy yet less revealing. There are plenty of options. Remember, what pleases him is only as good as your acceptance of it.
And don't do a striptease if you can't dance, please. You will embarrass yourself (unless you are attempting the cute angle, then it's ok). But if you are truly stepping to the plate, with all the makings of an erotic goddess, try something more full proof for yourself.
Seduction, in its purest form, has nothing to do with sex. Luring a man into your bed, in the hopes that he takes you like money from an ATM, is all about the mind. You have to soften him so that he is willing to give you control over his feelings. This is tricky.
The best way to relax him is to give him a sense of relief. How? Part of the craft is to psyche him up. Make him think that you need him to exert a lot of energy. And not just physical, mental too. Call him a few days before the day you plan to rock his world. Tell him that you need his help putting together some furniture. And not just any old desk. Make it something complicated, and heavy, so he also thinks he needs to put in some serious lifting. It will occupy his mind for days and he will dread it. Believe me, even if he thinks the world of you, he'd rather be watching sports. This is a good thing.
So when he comes over, he will be ready to get it done, get it over with, and get whatever reward he is set to receive. But when he walks in, he'll realize he's been set up. Be careful again. This can backfire worse than a 1965 Chevy.
No man wants to be lied to. He's set aside time for this, probably canceled plans or overlooked certain activities with his boys. You have to make it clear from the time he steps through the door that this little deceit was done with the best intentions of screwing the hell out of him.
This is where you flip his mind. Look cute. Look very cute. Tell him that you wanted to surprise him with a relaxing evening because you know how hard he works (if he is the type of man that doesn't like to work hard, then you're stupid for doing this anyway and you need to get off the Helium website and reevaluate your priorities).
Anyway, the next few seconds will be critical. He must understand that you are there to wait on him hand, back, and foot. It's all about your gift to him.
Something should click inside him. The days of dread he experienced from predicting that he would be listening to you whine about how he's not putting the entertainment center together correctly, for five hours, will be replaced with relief, along with the anticipation that you will break him off something proper before he walks out of the door.
Stick to your planned evening, but allow the chemistry to take over. It will guide you to him and him to you. If he asks, let him know what you've planned. Have some massage oil on stand-by. Depending on how far you want to take it, or how kinky you want to make it, have a bag of tricks stashed away. Again, within your comfort zone. Candles, candles, candles, can't say too much more about that. There's no better feeling than screaming within the confines of an orgasm under the allure of candlelight. Make sure your bathroom is spotless, especially the bathtub, because you may find yourself in it before the night is over.
Don't forget to scream his name, remind him that he is awesome, and most of all, enjoy...