by Mak

Created on: January 02, 2009   Last Updated: June 15, 2011

A disrespectful child lacks courtesy and shows rude behavior. It is very painful when parents must deal with these kinds of children everyday. Teen agers are  disrespectful to parents or elderly for various reasons. They may pick  habits of being discourteous or rude from other kids or teenages in the process of growing up.  Children learns mostly from the family environments and the friend's circle. Parents play a greater role in deciding whether a child grows up as an discourteous and rude person or with a great personality.

Prevention is better than cure. In the first place parents should take precautions so their children do not grow up to be disrespectful persons. They should talk with their children in such a way so that it does not contribute in the development of bad attitude or habits. Family violence and disrespectful attitude among spouses create deep impressions on children and help to create disrespectful attitudes in later age. Consider you child as small plant, take care of it with all your heart and help it to grow it into flower that is liked by everyone.

Parents should care for and lend support to their children. Lend them an ear to understand their way of thinking and help them to analyze the things around them that they see and hear. Explain and correct things if they have the wrong ideas or information. Teach them how to behave and how to react respectfully to issues that differ from their's.  Help them to learn how to present arguments on issues that are not acceptable. Teach them in their early stages of life that there is a way of saying no or disagreeing in a decent manner, while still conveying the message forcefully. With careful approaches at early stages, parents would be able to avoid the painful situation of dealing with a disrespectful children at a later stage.

Another scenario is dealing with disrespectful teenagers from second marriages or similar situations and having had no opportunity to train them at the growing-up stages. Older teenagers are more firmer, or entrenched, about their opinions and they may or may not have some sorts of logic behind them when they insist on something. Careful and measured approaches are needed to deal with them. Be patience and take time to hear them, try to understand and analyze the situation and don't start arguing right away. Give your arguments and points in a logical and easily understandable manner. Give examples of what you would have done if your were in their place.

Try to be friendly with them, because as soon as they take you to be an understanding friend and not a dictating parent, thing should become smooth and much easier. Your teenagers will be more respectful toward you.

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