by xe

Created on: December 30, 2008   Last Updated: April 11, 2009

Listing your skill in role-playing games is equivalent to advertising that you are good at misrepresenting yourself on dates. By definition, role-playing is pretendng to be someone other than yourself. While most people who meet others through online dating postings are probably expecting misrepresentaton to a point, there should be limits to the stretch.

Actually, however, creating a totally fabricated identity can be recommended in several instances. First, if a sense of humor and liking fun are a big part of you, then the playful fabrication of a personna which is presented as such can be an outstanding intro. Similarly, if your actual personality is so hideous that the truth would result in an arrest warrent being served, then you may choose to g the fantasy roue for that reason as well.

If people don't understand role-playing, they can get really freaked by the use of words that have negative meaning in real life. Playing roles in games too much can really mess with your ability to make distinctions between fantasy and real life, though. Like, if when I pick her up I scream off running stop-signs and traffic lights, and when she asks why I say something about "Grand Theft Auto", I find that dates are usually really short and second dates are rare at best. Even a simple reference of "too close for missiles; switching to guns" has to be interjected lightly to not be misunderstood.

Another one I recommend being careful with is asking your date if she wants to go to your dungeon instead of your apartment. Watch this one really carefully especially if you listed a torture-related game in your profile - it seems to make them turn really pale really fast. I also have learned through hard experience that when you talk about your friends (if you really have any) it is good to throw in some human names once in a while, even if you have to make them up. Dwelling too much on intersteller post-apocolyptic demigod names can have a tendency to make one appear too aloof and superior to mere mortals; and she might just be one.

Then again, you can't be too careful with checking out the ones that seem to really dig murder and dungeons, too. Like, if she asks you if self-mutilation is a fantasy or a hobby, you might want to check her arms for scars or bandages. Wearing long sleeves when it is really hot out can be a clue, too. Oh yeah, if she asks to drive your car, and then screams off running stop-signs and traffic lights muttering something about Grand Theft Auto - you may have just found your perfect match!

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