by Michelle Shelly

Created on: December 30, 2008   Last Updated: May 10, 2010

Relationships should be based on trust within each other. Insecurity in relationships only cause problems now and in the future. Insecurity is often due to each persons insecurity that one may have within themselves which have nothing to do with the relationship directly, but it does indirectly.

Here are four tips on how to handle insecurity in relationships.

Insecurity is a feeling that each human has. It often comes out in relationships because we often feel like we are going to lose something. We often feel like that we are going to lose control of the situation which would result in the relationship ending due to our insecurity.

If you have ever experienced a person walking out on you and never coming back then it hits the insecurity that you may have. The insecurity transfers over to the relationships because it is a reminder at times. It is difficult to explain and even comprehend, but insecurity is something everyone goes through at times.

Insecurity is something that you need to work on through self help books or some other method. A therapist might be a good idea if all else fails. You don't want to put two people together who have extreme insecurity issues since it could result in domestic violence.

Relationships shouldn't have any insecurity in them. You and your partner should feel secure enough each day. If he or she doesn't then make sure to get the problem straightened out so it doesn't become a major issue.

Insecurity can destroy a relationship. Ask yourself do you want a relationship to end based upon insecurity. You have to be ready to work on any issues that you may have in order to keep a relationship going otherwise it will end.

You shouldn't have insecurity over coworkers or family friends. You might want to keep an eye on your best friend since affairs usually happen with a best friend or someone else close to you two. Best friends can also cause insecurity in a relationship at times if one gets jealous of another.

Sometimes he or she senses that there is something there between a best friend or family friend. They often show their insecurity then because they feel threatened somehow. A man and a woman can feel this way on both sides regarding best friends and family friends.

Insecurity can come form fear of abandonment. It can come from childhood experiences. It can come from past issues. It can come from a variety of sources so make sure to see a therapist to get it taken care of so it doesn't get out of hand.

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