by David Swyer

Created on: December 30, 2008   Last Updated: February 10, 2009

When your marriage is in trouble, and a good many marriages fall into disaray after a few years, most partners seek help to recover the excitement and feelings of closeness they experienced in their early years.

Where do you go for help and advise? You can find articles in magazines and online. You can seek assistance from friends and relatives.

The problem with this route is that you generally get ambigious answers that are hard to understand and equably difficult to apply to your particular situation.

What you really need are practical suggestions. Ideas that you can put into practice and actually see a light at the end of the tunnel.

This article cuts out the ambiguity and provides real ideas that you can start doing today.

When you fall in love, you are gloriously, wonderfully and passionately happy with another person.

When you feel this way about that person, you are overwhelmed by that God given inborn desire to spend the rest of your lives in his or her arms.

This generally results in marriage by a "man of the cloth", who reads the marriage vows to you which require you to love and cherish each other for the rest of your lives.

After a few years, the bloom of the honeymoon may become dimmed a little for various reasons. You still love each other, but that love is tempered by a myriad of problems that every married couple faces.

For instance, are you still affectionate with your spouse, are you respectful of his or her opinion, does your employment produce a sufficient income? Do you do things together? Do you agree on how to raise your children? Do you both try to give 90% of your best to the other?

All of these and many other things produce a different kind of love, which is of a more practical nature. This type of love is very important in a marriage and it will be the glue that holds your union together.

Considering the above, you may find after you have been wed for a few years, that your marriage has become somewhat humdrum and boring. When this happens, it is time for you to spice up your lives if you want to avoid the serious problems that boredom can cause.

The way to do this is to find some fun and exciting things that you can do together. You need to sit down and discuss activities which would be enjoyable and in which you can both participate.

I will suggest below some activities for you to consider. But, with a little thought, you will be able to add many other possibilities. Remember, the important thing is that you choose activities you can do as a

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