by Brandy Fee

Created on: January 20, 2007   Last Updated: April 23, 2007

There is no definite answer to this question as every man is different. There are many signs that a woman can look for, many things that may spark suspicion, many ways for a man to show that he is cheating. So what are some of the pointers?

1. He has made a dramatic change in his appearance almost overnight. This doesn't mean all of a sudden he goes from work shirts to "go out shirts." It doesn't mean that he goes and gets a new haircut. It means that he starts wearing that favorite cologne every day; he shaves more than he did before; he always wears clean clothes, and even the ones without stains on them. He brushes his teeth in the middle of the work day, he gets a haircut you have never seen before. He just cares more what he looks like.

2. He doesn't come home when he is supposed to. Granted there are always times that a man has to work late, or stops to have a beer with the guys, but ladies, you know what is usual... if it is unusual for him to stay out all night, go out every night after work, then there is something going on.

3. He starts accusing you of cheating, when you know you haven't been. This isn't the teasing "did you see your boyfriend today" issue, this is outright accusations, and he is angry when he is doing it.

4. He becomes more affectionate. Some men are generally affectionate, some are not. IF he becomes more affectionate, almost smothering when you are together, there could be a problem. Usually this stems from guilt.

5. He is always angry with you. Not just over the big issues, but the little ones, you didn't put the cap on the toothpaste, which has never bothered him before, and now it has sent him into an outrage? Better ask yourself why.

Overall, men are all different. Yet they are all the same. Only you will be able to tell when something has changed. I have yet to see a man who has not shown his guilt in some way when he is having an affair. But women beware: don't go looking for things that aren't there. Sometimes when it seems like things have changed, and they have, it may be completely innocent. Don't jump to conclusions, always give him the benefit of the doubt.

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