by Sadaf Farooqi

Created on: December 28, 2008

A Set of Tips That Will Help Muslim Men Become Ideal Husbands!

At a time when divorces are on the rise and more marriages are on the rocks than those that are not, happy Muslim couples too, are hard to come by. More and more Muslim youngsters find themselves severely afflicted by the fitnah of it being easier to commit zina (adultery) than to get married. Also, once married, they face the fitnah of the ease of falling into, and enjoying, casual flings over the cell-phone or Internet, instead of being able to sustain an invincible marital bond with one's spouse.

Requests were made by Muslim brothers who read my article "How To Guard Your Husband's Honor As A Muslim Wife, asking me to write an article detailing the important things which Muslim men should do as imperative duties and obligations towards their wives. Below is therefore, a list of things for Muslim men to remember when dealing with their wives. Marriages today need to be armed with sufficient armor against the severe onslaught of fitnah's.

He emulates the behavior of the Prophet Muhammad [may Allah's peace be upon him]:

Allah says in the Qur'an: "You have indeed in the Messenger of Allah, a beautiful example (of conduct) for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Final Day, and who remembers Allah much." [Qur'an - 33:21]

The Prophet Muhammad [may Allah's peace be upon him] overlooked his wives' shortcomings, and tolerated their unreasonable behavior. The books of ahadith are replete with examples of how he ignored what he did not like about their actions, with a smile and patient silence. Once, when he became very angry with all of them, he left their company and resolved not to talk to them for a month.

Instead of shouting or verbally reprimanding your wife for every mistake, just ignore her. If she is fighting with you or being unreasonable, you can always leave the room and not answer back, which is the best strategy. When you will ignore her for some time, she will willingly relinquish the behavior which angered you.

He treats her with respect, especially during intimacy:

Sexual gratification is the foremost reason why men get married, and they make serious mistakes right in the beginning, which cause the greatest blows to their marital relationship. Muslim men should fear Allah regarding how they handle their wives during intimacy.

Narrated Jabir Bin Abdullah [may Allah be pleased with him], "The Prophet [may Allah's peace be upon him] did not allow sexual intercourse before fondling (the wife)." [Abu

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