by Melody Little

Created on: December 28, 2008

Alcoholism, is it a chemical thing? it genetic? What is going on threw and alcoholics mind? Do they want to stop but can't? Do they know what they are doing to themselves and everyone around them? we have all dealt with the typical drunk who drinks on occasion, but what if you are in love with a drunk? People have sometimes asked how anyone could be in love or love an alcoholic. I have a very simple answer for you, love is not something that anyone can control no matter how much you may want to, the only difference between you and I is the word alcoholic. I would like to say that every alcoholic can't quit drinking anytime they want to, when the reality is that most alcoholics can not stop. Now most of you who are on here and reading this are probably a family member, a spouse, family member, or even an ex alcoholic if the last is the case I need to say congratulations and I know you will work threw it. The simple fact of the matter is no matter who you maybe in this situation you are never on the easy end of things. I had been with an alcoholic for basically three years and never thought it was a problem until everything began crumbling under our feet. This man would come home every night with a fifth of vodka and drink most of it before the night was threw. Now not all alcoholics are violent, but basic human instinct teaches us that everyone can become aggressive. This presents a problem to everyone in this never ending circle. It is very easy to sit there and scoff at the alcoholics when you do not have this problem yourself. I have noticed several times a couple college students laughing at the drunk falling down. This is something that enrages me because more than likely the person with this problem has so many problems that they don't need someone laughing in their face the only way the know how to deal with whatever is ailing them. While I would love to say that I was never one of them I can not say this. I have laughed at a alcoholic before never knowing what they put themselves and everyone threw on a daily basis. Until you love an alcoholic or at least care for them you will never truly know what is happening with them. I have said that it is hard to love an alcoholic and stand by them threw everything they are putting you and themselves threw. I will be the first to admit that I still love my ex and will stand by him but as far as a relationship goes I can not do that. Loving an alcoholic and being with an alcoholic is two way different things and while I will always love him I can not be with him. Usually the alcohol is no problem when he is calm cool an collected but it is when he starts to get angry with me and starts to verbally abuse me is where the stereotypes come from when it comes to alcoholics, and I do need to point out that you do not need to be an alcoholic to be abusive. All I am trying to say is being in love or loving an alcoholic is hard and it takes a very good hearted person to stay with them and love them until the end, however it may end.

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