by Terry Marsh

Created on: December 27, 2008

I often hear that I'd one day make a wonderful husband for some lucky woman. I have a great job with a stable work history, I allocate time to under privileged children, I'm adequate in the kitchen, more than adequate in the bedroom, and for a bachelor, I keep a fairly clean house.

I've received accolades for my community involvement, compliments for my devotion to family and friends, and respect for being a gentleman in the presence of ladies. I manage my life in such a manner which enables me to balance my commitments, and even find the time to unwind socially.

But, despite what others might see or think, I still find my days fully occupied with activity and my nights alone with my thoughts. If so many others say that I'd make such a great catch, then why am I still unattached, uninvolved, romantically uncommitted, and unable to find that one special woman with whom I might share my life?

Many of those who care about me have weighed in with their opinions. Friends, relatives, and even female co-workers have informed me that I'm either too busy, too shy, too intimidating, or I don't try. Most of them, at one point or another, have even had a friend that they'd like for me to meet. But, after one not-so-great blind date experience a few years ago, I've been hesitant to go that route again. I do, however, appreciate their efforts and concern.

What most people do not realize though, is that in no way do I feel desperate to be in a relationship. I love women, and thoroughly enjoy sharing certain aspects of my life with them. But, I've come to be very particular about how I spend my time, and with whom I share my life, and feel that I have every right to be.

I've become very comfortable with who I am as a person, and have not allowed myself to wallow in the pit of loneliness. I live a full life which includes fine dining, theatrical productions, jazz and blues, concerts, amusement parks, movies, nightclubs and dancing. I attend social functions and family events, go for walks in the park, jog along the beachfront, and though it would sometimes be nice to share the perfect sunset with someone, I'm still able to enjoy the beauty of the world on my own.

This is not to say that I'm not open and receptive to romance if it presents itself. I welcome the opportunity to share life experiences with a woman who is willing to accept me for me. I don't want anyone in my life who would feel that she'd have to change in order to be with me. But, I also don't want to spend my life feeling like I have to change for someone else.

To me, the best relationships are those where two people are willing to accept each other for who they are, communicate openly and honestly, have no hidden agendas, and are willing to grow together. When a woman walks into my life who can fit that criteria, then maybe she'll think I'm a great catch too.

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