by Ms. Know-It-All

Created on: December 26, 2008

Why would any woman in her right mind give up dating men? In my opinion, there is no such thing. Women who are hurt by a break up are not in their right minds, trust me, I know. The thing to remember is that no matter what has happened to you in the past, no matter who has broken your heart, no matter how happy they may seem as they have moved on, especially if they moved on with someone else, none of that matters because you are still here. Everyone is born with a purpose, and if someone that you thought was going to be in your life forever is now gone, take a moment to reflect on that. It may be a blessing.

Personally, my break up has helped me to reclaim myself as the strong woman I have always been. I was involved with someone who was so weak that the only way he was able to build himself up was by tearing me down. Unfortunately, the only time 20/20 vision becomes available is in hindsight, but at least now I know. When you are involved with someone for so long, it is easy to get caught up in the daily flow of things. In a bad marriage, the flow is usually highly dysfunctional, and it usually involves you completely and totally losing yourself. Then one day you look in the mirror and realize that you have given so much of yourself that you feel like nothing is left, but believe it or not, there is.

Since my marriage has been over, I have managed to continue my education, and I am less than a year away from completing my BA; without all of the stress and headaches of an unfaithful husband, I have even given thought to completing my Master's. It feels good to be coming into my own and looking at opportunities to relocate myself and my son.

So as far as coming to terms with giving up dating, that is not something on my list of things to do. I will never give up dating men; I love men. I don't believe that all men are dogs; if I believed that, I would have to believe the same thing about women because there are some pretty sly women out here too, but no one ever really mentions that. I know there is a man out there for me, but that's not my focus. I don't look at being single as a bad thing, because I know it is not forever. If you are single, just get into yourself. Do something you never had a chance to do before. Start something and finish it. Find out who you really are, and you will be so busy discovering yourself that one day, you will look up and he will be right there.

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