by Michelle Shelly

Created on: December 24, 2008   Last Updated: May 23, 2010

Our partner should give us a certain amount of privacy. Each relationship should have trust. One should only go prying when they have a good reason to do so. If you suspect that your partner may be cheating or perhaps messing up the money that you two share, then you have every right to pry in order to find out what is exactly going on.

Prying is something that we shouldn't do on a regular basis. It implies that we do not trust the partner that we are currently with. If we feel the need to pry all the time, then we should not be in a relationship with that person, because in the back of our mind, we will always wonder what he or she is hiding.

Privacy is the right that one always should have. Do not go read through their journals that one may write in. They have every right to write personal things in a journal that shouldn't be read by anyone, including you, unless he or she wants you to read it.

Some women pry into their mans life when an ex-wife sends him emails or letters or makes telephone calls.

Some of them are jealous of the ex. Some of them feel that they have a right to know what is going on. It is none of their business what goes on when kids are involved in a previous marriage unless the current spouse tells them. If you are a stepmother, you may feel that you have the right to know what goes on to a certain extent. You do, but you can not make decisions on how to raise them or try to replace their current mother.

Each individual should not pry in a relationship unless he or she is ready to find information that they are not prepared for. Do not be shocked, surprised, or even mad if you find something that one really shouldn't be hiding. How many times in your life have you hid something? Why? You didn't want anyone to know about it. It was a secret. Prying is the same thing. Every person has secrets that they do not wish to share with their partner.

Privacy includes not going through old boxes of pictures that belong to your partner. It includes not reading old love letters. It includes not reading old emails that were written before you came into the picture. All of these things are basically none of your business to some degree. How would you feel if your partner looked at old photos and old love letters that may have been written by you or past lovers? You would be screaming that your privacy rights were violated. Keep in mind how would you feel when you decide to pry.

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