by Michael W.

Created on: December 22, 2008

Should you have sex on the first date? The answer to this question depends on a couple of things. First and mainly, is this a one night stand or do you actually want to see this person again? Next, if this is someone you are going to see again, what is their stance on the subject? Communication about sex should always be open and honest from the start, so there is no confusion later.

Typically, in my opinion, you should absolutely not ever have sex on a first date. If you are having a great time and enjoying your date's company, then you will definitely want to have something for them to look forward to in the future, especially if you want to see them again. If you have sex on the first date you will be, per se, putting all your eggs in one basket. Nothing will be left to desire, or imagine, and there will be no reason to actually see you again. It's the easy way to invite someone to take advantage.

If you are searching for a lasting relationship, you should never have sex on the first date. Sex on the first date will only make you come off as extremely easy, and that may completely erase your entire lure of appeal, and ruin any chance you might have for true intimacy with someone.

On a first date you, honestly, should never go any further than a deep passionate kiss. Leaving it on this note will build more desire and a genuine interest in seeing you again. In leaving things to the imagination, your appeal will shoot through the roof, making the sex, when it does happen, that much better. It will also allow you to properly get to know the person you are dating, before you give your most valued possession to them, yourself.

Avoiding having sex on the first date will prove two things. First you will learn if this person is genuinely interested in seeing you again, as well as if you can completely enjoy yourself with this person on a less physical level. You should always take your time to get to know someone before you have sex with them. This will allow you to make better decisions on who you want to share yourself with. Sex should be an act of intimacy, and you should never take that for granted by having sex on the first date.

Not to mention the awkward feeling of uncertainty that you will definitely have the very next morning. When you look at yourself in the mirror, after taking a long drawn out hot shower, and ask, should I have really done that? What did I just do? And all of those other questions we are all prone to ask ourselves after feeling that we have made a major mistake.

In conclusion, avoid the feeling of uncertainty; do not have sex on the first date if you come to the conclusion that this is a person that you really want to see again. Take your time to evaluate if this person is worth your time and affection. On the other hand if it is just a one night stand, then enjoy! And always be safe.

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