by Latrice Hunter

Created on: December 22, 2008

"You're nothing without me. How could anyone love you, you're nothing. You're life is meaningless and worthless." Do these words sound familiar to any of you? The first hit was an accident, the second hit was his fault, and every other hit thereafter is your fault. Dinner was late, your hair wasn't done properly, the mirror had a stain, and the list goes on and on. Making a choice to stay or leave an abusive relationship lies solely on the person who wants, desires, or NEEDS to leave. Women who have experienced some type of an abusive relationship has had her self esteem, self worth, torn at the seams and those people around her may never understand her plight. All types of questions arise, do I stay for the children, am I the cause of his abuse, maybe I could be a better woman, and he's justified. Why did I stay? Well, my answer isn't simple neither is it complex because the harsh reality is, I don't know. Did I think he loved me? Well, for a moment I did. I would've bet my life on it if I was a gambling won and unfortunately I would've lost. Did I do it because my daughter needed her father? No, because I felt she needed her mother more. I think if I had to answer, I'd probably say that I stayed because I felt I could do no better. Who would want a woman with two children, no future, no aspirations, no dreams, no goals, overweight, and barely making ends meet? I was more of a liability than an asset; at least this is what I thought at the time. If any of you don't know the power of God, let me tell you. Prayer changed my life. It changed who I thought I was and it gave me the strength to realize that God did not give me a spirit of fear and instantly, I was fearless because I was more than a conqueror. The last day he laid his hand on me was the first day he felt my wrath and believe me, that'll be one day that he'll remember when he lays his head down for his eternal rest. Words could never express the power that was bestowed upon me but I'm glad that I made it through my ordeal. It brings me great pleasure and closure to know that I can write these words and tell my story to those women who feel abandoned, lost, and alone. I would never tell anyone to stay or leave because ultimately it's a personal choice but I would encourage any woman to ask themselves what's more important in life because when I asked myself, my answer was ME!

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