by Tiffany Kjell

Created on: December 22, 2008

Often the honesty of individuals on dating websites is called into question. Many people believe that most people who visit those websites are genuinely looking for the right match and will be honest in doing so. However, it seems that in looking for that right match, many people resort to misleading statements or photos in an effort to attract the attention of a would-be suitor.

One common problem on these websites is the simple act of uploading a photo. Nobody wants others to see a bad side of them before they even take a moment to read their profile. In an effort to disguise any flaws they may post images that are years old or have been highly edited to make them appear more attractive. Some people will even go to the extreme of posting a photo of somebody else. They may believe that they have a great personality and that once someone gets to know them, the photo they posted will no longer matter.

Another misleading thing about online dating websites and their users is the fact that they choose what they put in their profile. Of course nobody is going to admit that they're an alcoholic, cheated on their ex, or had their children taken away from them. They are only going to list the things about themselves that make them look like "the one".

There's also the simple fact that someone's personality can be completely different online than it may be in person. An individual who is extremely shy in person may appear outgoing when chatting online. Someone who typically swears a lot may edit out those words when speaking online. There is really no way to be sure this is truly the personality of the individual you are speaking with until you actually meet them in person.
Also, there's the fact that online dating makes it easy for predators to find victims. They become easy targets when so eager to find love that they gloss over any red flags that may be present. These predators will make themselves appear as appealing as possible and use any lies necessary to catch the unsuspecting individual in their trap. Caution is always needed when dealing with people online, but especially when considering to meet someone in person for a romantic encounter.

In the end, it's up to the individual looking for love to determine what course is right for them. Online dating can provide someone with a wider variety of prospects that the traditional forms of meeting a potential mate. It is also very hazardous. Determine if it's right for you and always be careful. If ever meeting someone in person for the first time, be sure people know where you are and always meet at a public location. Use your head, be cautious. As they say: "plan for the worst and hope for the best."

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