by Sheba Hayward

Created on: December 21, 2008

As someone who has been divorced for almost 4 years now and has just broken up with someone I read a few of these articles and found some great ideas. Before i get to my list I have a few suggestions for caution lights on those stocking stuffers:

1. Unless someone has told you specifically that they are looking and would like to be fixed up with someone, avoid giving a single friend blind dates. They may take it as an indication that they're pitiful and aren't capable of finding an appropriate date themselves if they haven't asked for that sort of assistance from you. It may only further remind the person that they are not attached at the holidays also. If you're having gatherings inviting more than one single person you know might be a better alternative.

2. Gym memberships may be taken as an indication that you think a person needs help either getting in shape, meeting people or both. unless they have mentioned something like "Gee I'd like to join a gym but I really don't feel I should spend the money on it" that gift may be outright insulting. The message to receiver may be "You're single so you need to not be fixed so you won't be single." It can be difficult to be alone as it is over the holidays without your friends implying that you're out of shape and there's something "wrong with you."

3. Dating site memberships could be great if the person has indicated that they want to do this or will be ready to embark on that soon. Again depending on how well you know the person and their situation, use caution: it's another one of those that could imply the person needs "fixing" or help and may not be seen in a positive light by the receiver.

Gifts that pamper, perform a service that the person won't have to pay for themselves or just plain show some thought and effort are so appreciated at this time of year and can be inexpensive or require only your time. That in itself is a precious gift.

1. Socks are great! It can be warm socks or i work with clients who get a kick out of seeing my unique Christmas socks. It's been freezing where I live this November and December so I love the extra warm ones my brother and sister in law sent to me. People don't always think of buying themselves socks either. My late brother in law used to count on me to get him some every Christmas and he wasn't single.

2. A ticket to an event that you know the person likes with a matching ticket for you to go with them. Unless you have extenuating family circumstances and even if you do take

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