by Leigha Dobson

Created on: December 20, 2008   Last Updated: January 19, 2009

My wife and I got together while our daughter was still young which turned out to be great. She was four at the time and believe me not stupid. She caught us cuddling one time, screamed "GROSS!" and rolled over to cover her eyes with a blanket. I would say that was the day we came out to her. I didn't show affection around her with any other girlfriends due to various things so, to her this was all brand new. We both started hanging out with her all the time and eventually asked her if she wanted her own room at another house. We came to show her our new home and she was excited, she asked where my bedroom would be and I told her I would share. She didn't really think about it much at four, but as she got older we sat her down and told her everything.

She had automatically started calling my wife Mama K and me Mama L without any hesitation or a word said to her. My wife and her instantly bonded and have had a great relationship since then. When we explained to her about us being gay, we also explained that we don't just fall in love with someone because they are a boy or girl, it was because of who they were. She took the answer and lives by it this day.

We never thought we would ever have to explain to our nine year old daughter about coming out. We were both out when she was young so we thought that was taken care of. Although, we didn't think about the new teachers every year and friend's parents and activities.....etc. One day she was "playing" within ear shot of my wife and I talking about her coming out at work. You can tell she is gay but had never said anything about it to anyone at her job she had been at for 10 years and she was ready to put pictures of us up. She knew that she would be coming out and getting a lot of questions, especially working primarily with men.

After our daughter heard coming out she instantaneously asked what that was. At that point we were dumfounded. We both looked at each other with that holy crap look on our face, but knew this had to be done. We are both big advocates of being honest and straight up with kids if they are mature enough to handle it and understand it. So we set her down and told her that not everyone knew that she had two mommies or that we are lesbians. She asked why and we just said because it had really never come up before. My family thought it was a big joke when I came out until now since I have been with the same woman for 6 years, and her family disowned her so we were two for two here.

As she sat on

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