by Yeshe G. Muhammad

Created on: December 20, 2008

The statement "ways to avoid emotionally unavailable women has a fallacy in it. Of what benefit would it be to avoid emotionally unavailable women, if it is her emotions that help to make her a woman? Are women created to be emotional beings? Can women ever be considered emotionally unavailable? In this article, we will explore these questions for the benefit of helping us to understand women in order to improve our relationships with them.

As a woman myself, I think it is next to impossible for me to separate from my emotions. Emotions are one of the main ingredients that make a woman. Since women are considered the "second self" of God, they have to realize that they are emotional beings who must gain control of their emotions so they can think like a god. A woman as the second self of God is born to be on a path of relationships that reflect God. A woman and her emotions are what gives her the desire to love, respect and protect her family. When the emotions of Love, compassion, desire or lack thereof are minimized, a woman can lose her dignity and self-respect.

Her womb is the Creator's workshop and in order for her to raise His best crop, she must be one who is in control of her emotions for His benefit. Women are not created to be the image that the media brings of them as lusty, nasty cheap things who bump and grind in g-strings. She is not meant to be misused and abused, though negative emotions sometimes causes such things to happen to her.

In my opinion, it is not a good idea to avoid women who are emotionally unavailable, because it is the emotionally availability of a woman that can strengthen a relationship with her. Her heart and her nature is after the Creator Himself, including the Love, Compassion, honesty and integrity. These things are needed to enhance the relationships she may encounter. Depending on who is looking, trying to avoid an emotionally unavailable women could be for the purpose of exploitation and lack of commitment.

If a woman is emotionally unavailable, it could be a detriment to one who wishes to exploit her emotions. She could be a cold, calculating individual who could destroy any man, woman or child. Such a woman is not emotionally unavailable, but one who hides from herself and others, thus making her self destructive and destructive of those around her.

My conclusion, therefore, it that the statement "how to avoid emotionally unavailable women" has a fallacy. Women can never be separated from their emotions, but can gain control and mastery over their emotions so they can better control their lives and surroundings. A woman who is in control of her emotions can establish better relationships with men, women or children, thus making her a being after the likeness of the Creator, not someone to be exploited.

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