by Mrs Nicky Goode

Created on: December 20, 2008

Your child, that is the key phrase in this debated topic of birthday parties. This is your child so you are entitled to do as you please, but in saying this your child should feel important any way. That is with or with out a birthday party. A birthday party should be a celebration and not a boost or a decrease for a child's self esteem. Your child and or children should feel important because they are important and to me a birthday party is just a materialistic thing. I mean think about this one scenario. A hard working mother who works barely 40 hours a week at a low pay rate barely makes enough to get by for her and her child. She can't afford a birthday party but she shows her child enough love and support all year round. She can't afford extra right now but thats okay because her child still feels important and knows if the mother could she would throw a party for that special day her bundle of joy came into the world.

A birthday party should not make or break a child. This debate also goes into a far more important subject like parenting and teaching values to a child. You as a parent have an obligation to show that child he or she is important without gifts and parties. Now parties are okay but it should not been seen as a way to make that child feel important or loved. Money and gifts can't buy love. I feel that anyone using gifts and parties that way need to reevaluate there definition of importance and love.

With all that being said, the day your children come into the world is a wonderful thing and yes you can celebrate that day. When you first bring a child into the world, that starts the day that a bond is created and also the parenting cycle is supposed to be being taught. Now when i say that I don't mean give your baby a book on parenting and teach the child, but the way you raise up a child is the way they usually raise their children too most of the time. If you show a child love, support, how to feel important and be important without gifts, parties and other materialistic things then they too will understand what true values are. They then show their children and their children show their children and so forth.

A birthday party should not be viewed as a bad thing or idea but should not be viewed as something thats necessary. A birthday party should be a option. When you have a birthday party think of these things, after this party will your child still know that he or she is loved and that they are still the most important person in your life? If you are not sure or the answer is no, then that means instead of throwing a party, take that time and opportunity to spend some time with your child. Show them that they are important by showing love and not by showering of gifts or parties.

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