by Lynette Alice

Created on: December 17, 2008   Last Updated: September 12, 2009

A little enthusiasm goes a long way to keeping a relationship at it's peak. In long term relationships of all sorts whether they be romantic or a friendship, enthusiasm is a key ingredient to keeping a healthy relationship strong and evolving. It doesn't take much to inject a little life into a relationship and the benefits are too numerous to list but there are several key perks you will enjoy by making a little extra effort.

There is nothing worse in a relationship than stagnation. When a relationship reaches the point where there is no excitement it dies or becomes so boring it may as well be, Being enthusiastic in regards to a relationship adds the element of surprise. An enthusiastic person after all is not going to settle for sitting in front of the television all the time. They are going to look for new activities and challenges which create the feeling that time shared together can lead to something that is worth looking forward to. A relationship without enthusiasm is akin to listening to the same song over and over forever. It may be good briefly, but over the long haul it does nothing to get the juices flowing. If you keep a person guessing at to what is going to come next you keep them enthusiastic about being with you.

A little enthusiasm keeps you from resenting each other. It is not at all uncommon for people in a lifeless relationship to feel this emotion. They begin looking at being with someone as a chore. It makes a person feel like they are in a one sided relationship in which they give and give and the other takes which is irritating. Resentment leads to a variety of nastier emotions as well, Once you begin resenting someone it is a hard trend to reverse and spells out the likely end of a relationship A little give and take in these situations helps avoid this.

A lack off enthusiasm is sometimes construed as a lack of appreciation. Every needs to feel wanted and valued in their relationships. If you show no enthusiasm about your time with someone it is hard to not draw the conclusion that they just aren't into being with you. Ask yourself how much energy you are willing to devote to people that seem to treat you as someone they could live with or without. All it takes to avoid this is letting people know you like being with them and showing them you mean it! It is a very simple thing to do, as simple in fact as using statements like "I can wait to see you again" or "let's make some plans for next week." Small demonstrations like that show a person you are enthusiastic about being with them and it only takes a few seconds to do.

Showing a little enthusiasm in your relationship with one person opens the doors to relationships with other people that see you as a good friend to have. People observe the way others interact and it is no secret that when a person shows a penchant for being enthusiastic about their friends and family it attracts people to them. Enthusiastic people are generally well liked and popular which means they are rarely lonely. Lonely people often suffer from a host of personal problems and anxieties which could be avoided or improved by a better social life.

The worst of all emotions to develop from relationships lacking enthusiasm is anger. Anger is the sum of any of the above emotions over time or in combination. If you don't take the time to show people in some of the above ways which is not what anyone wants. A relationship with enthusiasm makes people feel better and therefore perform better in other areas of life. They treat people a little nicer, show a little more tolerance, and are willing to put more effort into their endeavors. Enthusiasm in a relationship to a degree helps make people better all around.

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