by Olivia Kay

Created on: December 13, 2008   Last Updated: January 28, 2012

Hooking up... but not remembering much about it, sometimes not even who it was with seems to be an ever-increasing trend amongst teens and young adults. They seem to see this as no big deal, usually something just happens after a night of drinking or partying. It's rare that the possible consequences of their actions cross their mind... pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, emotional distress, etc.

Observing the people around me over the years, it seems that many feel that going along with the crowd and engaging in behaviors like drinking and sex make them more popular and socially acceptable. In a way it's true, if you do what the majority does, you probably will know more people, have more phone calls, and invitations to parties. However, are these social acquaintances really friends? Do they really care about who you are as a person? If you had trouble or needed help, would they be there for you or bail? Generally, these types of acquaintances are only there when times are good and abandon you when they're not.

Personally, I feel that a person can live without sex. Sure the desire will be there from time to time, that's human nature. However, if you have a strong foundation and are comfortable with you are, you don't need random sex or other reckless behaviors to prove that to yourself.

I am not ashamed to admit that I am a 29 year old virgin; I see nothing wrong with that whatsoever. Sure others think that's weird or strange, actually I hear that all the time, but it doesn't bother me. I personally believe that sex has it's place, just like everything else in life and I believe that that place is within marriage. Sex will be more gratifying for a couple if they have put time into developing their relationship and have truly made a commitment to each other. Sure, random sex may be physically gratifying, but after the act, it really means nothing and usually just causes a lot of confusion and doubt. Whereas, sex within marriage is part of a deep relationship that is constantly growing and getting better as time goes on.

I've also heard several times that because I'm not having sex with guys that I must be lesbian or some sort of a religious freak, when neither is the least bit true. I believe in God and attend church regularly, but I wouldn't say that religion dominates my life at all, and I have a real values conflict with homosexuality. Sure, I accept homosexual people and treat them with respect like I would anyone else, but I have a problem feeling that people are actually born that way. It just really bothers me, for some reason, when people claim I must be that way just because I am not hooking up with a different guy every weekend like a lot of other single women do.

I believe that God has a plan for everyone's life. If there's a special man out there for me, he will come into my life eventually; I don't believe that I will have to seek him out. If God has someone in mind for me, and a serious relationship develops, I believe that I will be glad i made the decisions I did when it came to sex as I see a strong marriage as a great reward than popularity and instant gratification.

To summarize my ramblings, I believe that living without sex is possible and if you are not in a truly committed relationship, for the best. I think it's very important that people think about getting involved sexuality before just jumping into it blindly, for the wrong reasons.

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