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You are placed in a very difficult position when a loved one needs to handle their grief. To help other people handle their grief, the best things you can do are be there for that person. Show your compassion. When someone dies that is very close to a particular person, that person really doesn't want to be alone with their grief. What they really want is for their spouse, child, Mother, Father, sister, brother or best friend to still be there with them. The best thing you can do is to truly be there for that person.

How can you help a loved one handle their overwhelming grief?

AVOID DOING THESE THINGS

When a person you love is dealing with the loss of a loved one, you should avoid telling them the cliched responses of "I understand, " and "It's for the best." When someone dies and people are left grieving for that person, say heartfelt responses of, "It will take time, but it will get better." Whatever you do, don't tell the person to not let out their grief. Everyone handles death in different way. Some people cry and throw themselves on the deceased at the funeral, while others hold it all in and break down months later. Don't tell them to get drunk and do something they will regret later.

Above all don't leave a grieving person alone. Yes. you can leave him alone sometimes, but it is wise to check up on a spouse that has lost her or his lifelong partner as often as possible. A grieving mother who has lost a child will be angry and alternately depressed. Someone needs to help these people get through their profound loss. Don't leave them alone. Check up on a grieving person at least once a day by calling them or going over to their home.

When my Father died, I went over to my Mother's house at least three times a week for the the first year. It wasn't always an easy thing to do, with a new baby to take care, working full time and a new home to take care of also, but I did it. I wanted to make sure my Mother was okay and she wasn't lying in bed consumed with grief and depression.

WHAT SHOULD YOU DO

What should you do for a grieving person who has lost a loved one? Above all, let the grieving person get it all out. Let them cry, yell, or complain, or just let them talk for endless hours about how much they loved their best friend. Share stories of joy with your friend, Mother, Father, cousin, sister, or brother. Listen to the person complain or rant and rave about how unfair death is. It will help the person get over their loss. It might lead you to an emotional

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