by Quiana Kyles

Created on: December 10, 2008

A "FAITH FILLED" REALITIY

The toughest thing in the world is to admit to a child that you've made mistakes that your not proud of......................At, an early age honesty must be established. Yes, that includes telling kids the truth about the easter bunny, holloween and yes the dreaded Santa Clause reality. "GOD is the only one that provides giving the parents the income needed to provide what you need throughout the day including christmas. Does, that take their innocense away or make them grow up to fast? Please, watching Britney Spears at the age of 11 or 12 or younger and trying to wear her clothing, and make-up grows our girls up faster then the truth about Santa Clause(faith based friends go into the name itself show them that too) HINT, HINT!

When is it the right time to tell your child about sex? We'll, we do have a rresponsibility as parents to express to our children about sex and not leave it up to the teachers to do the job for us. I personally, had to start to explain to my daughter at 9 about "MOTHER FLOW"( what a treat that was to now reassure a 9year-old that cramps that she's feeling now isn't from the introduction to womanhood but her eating ice cream and double fudge oreo's. I, am however going to make sure that she has her survival kit and not go out like I did. Becoming a woman during gym class isn't the most lady like attractions. My husband and I after 14 years are still intimate (Really, Really into one another bad!/I'm talking high school sneaking around as if our parents are on their way home or something! I, know that's rare) However, what you express in front of your children (which is mutal respect not the x rated stuff), they will grow to follow in that pathway.

I, express to my children that there are consequences for the decisions that they make in this life be it bad or good. Along, with that comes "what you do effects everyone around you too," so your behavior should line up somehow. I, monitor what they watch, wear, and eat, along with who they hang out with. I, am honest letting them know at 9 and 11 that crime doesn't have a age limit and neither does jail. That it crosses all genders as well. So, they have a choice either they abide by the rules that are put forth by us or suffer the realities that prison could bring. Even at a young age. These days reality, is what these kids need.

Drugs, are the same issue with us my son once suprised me by bringing home a book on fighting the war on drugs it surprised me so we sat down and talked about it. I asked him what did he know and we had the chance to talk. I, expressed to him the importance of choices and how bad ones can lead you away from your spiritual covering. That, some in your own family have had to fight with that battle and some that didn't win. However, we want to stress to our children that they have the choice to do the right thing even now at the age that they are. They, can be the odd man and succeed running their own businesses even now at the tender age they are. Dreaming bigger, then their little hearts can do. When the child, has positive role models such as parents in the home that love each other and that express that love on a daily basis and inspire one anothers hopes and dreams you may not get perfection but you'll get productive people who can not only function within society but mold and shape other nations. It takes faith, love and patience to wiin the war................................................. ....................................Didn't you know belivers of the faith that the fight was fixed? Duh

Peace

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