by Daniel Creil

Created on: December 09, 2008

Almost everyone knows at least one negative person. A negative person complains all the time about something. He says words like: "You won't make it" or "He is too weak to do this". He criticizes everyone he knows and doesn't know. It is like he has nothing else to do. When he laughs it sounds miserable and makes you want to turn away. A negative person can not handle his own life and instead of searching for solutions and making it better, he falls in a lake of negativity as it proves that the rest of the world is bad and full of mistakes, and that his inability to fulfill his dreams is a result of this miserable world and other people.

After speaking with such a person you feel like he has taken your energy and drinked half of your blood. You are in a bad mood and would prefer going home and sleeping rather then going to a birthday party and having fun.

Trying to help negative people won't help. This is what they need- somebody who will show them that it is only their own fault at being unhappy and negative about everything and that other reality also exists. But as they do not want a help, your efforts will be like a waste of time. The thing is that they are negative. They also are negative about their abilities to change. They don't believe that something might help. They will answer: "It won't help." or "I can't change, it is too late.". In their speeches they use words of `can not`, `no`, `impossible`, `useless` more often than other people: the positive ones or the neutral ones.

How do they make you feel? After communication with a negative person you will feel bad because you listen to all that negative bucket of thoughts and things that he was able to speak about. You will feel bad because he refuses to accept a help to change. And finally: you will feel bad when you realize that even you start to judge him badly.

Everything is about bad, bad and a bit of more bad when it comes up to a negative person. And by saying bad I mean negative.

How should we communicate with a negative person and not to become a negative at the same time? Is it possible to do such thing?

Well, this is a tricky question. The best thing you could do is: avoid communication with negative person. But as we meet too many people every day, it is almost impossible thing to do, as some of them will definitely be from this type. Maybe it is good enough to understand in which part of reality you want to stay in and then: stay there. Work more on yourself and don't spend your time on thinking and criticizing that person, but focus more on your life and the people you like to be together with.

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