by Gary Maclean

Created on: December 06, 2008   Last Updated: March 16, 2011

What have you done? What were you thinking? What made you imagine it would be any different with you? Nobody ever gets away with cheating; something always catches up with you. Now you've done it and you feel the immense remorse and emptiness.

All you can picture is your lovely wife in tears. She has put her entire life into this relationship and you threw it all away for one night with some lame bimbo from across town. Man, you are not thinking. Nothing is worth the humility you are going to have to endure as you slowly come back into your wife's good graces; if you can.

You are asking so much of her. Somehow she has to deny the images of you in another woman's arms. She has to erase the thought of your lips brushing across another woman's lips. Not only does she have to erase those reflections, she has to bring herself to kiss the same lips that kissed who knows what, on another woman. She has to put herself in the position of never knowing you, or the other woman, ever existed.

Somehow, your wife has to take herself back to a time when there was no you. She has to imagine herself as she was before she ever met you. That's probably the only way she will ever be able to tolerate the image of another woman. What you did before her is history, that won't bother her. If she can somehow make this most recent escapade of yours seem like it happened before she met you, she may have a chance.

You desperately want to be back in her good graces. I know you're sorry, tell someone who gives a rat's A-. Sorry just doesn't cut it here buddy. There is no sorry that will ever make a difference. Don't even bother. The only thing you can do is throw yourself at her feet and plead for her mercy. If you really want to have your wife ever believe in you again, then you will have to go the distance. Sorry is first, but sorry doesn't mean a thing in matters of infidelity. Don't even bother.

For one person to get satisfaction from being or feeling sorry, the other person must forgive. She is not going to be able to forgive. Oh, she may say she has forgiven you but you have to know what forgiveness means to really accept the fact that you have been forgiven.

To forgive someone means you will never mention the act that threatened your faith and trust in that individual in the first place. You will never expect compensation or remuneration. There will be no "What's good for the goose is good for the gander." Forgiveness means erasing all recollection of the act from one's mind. It

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