by Kathy Vandermark

Created on: December 06, 2008

Whether we live with or without regrets, depends on the perspective we have on our lives, as a whole. If our lives have turned out fair, we might not be as quick to drag out the feelings of regret, but what about for those who feel life has been a constant struggle? Feelings of regret follow these people around every corner. We can be assured, it is possible to live without regrets, and when we see our lives through a Christian perspective, we can see how it is possible.

Regret is the sorrowful feeling that we have when we feel we could or should have done something differently. When we feel regret, we are looking back into the past. The problem with this, is, no matter how hard we wish, that instant we have regret about, is still in the past, and cannot be changed. The regret we are carrying around has no purpose at all, except to give us more burdensome luggage.

The way to work through the regret is to evaluate the circumstance. What has been lost and gained by the decision or poor choice? Bible Scriptures give us ways to work through the burdensome times in our lives. First of all, the Bible tells us the sun shines on both the good and evil and rains on both the good and evil. This assures us that the hard times we have faced doesn't mean that God hates us. God loves every one of us. Secondly, the Bible tells us that there is nothing that happens to any one of us, that has not happened to someone before us. We are not unique in this way. With this in mind, we can know we are not alone. Thirdly, the Bible tells us that God uses our lives for His purpose. It doesn't matter if we are on the side of good or evil, God will use us to bring people, including us, to Him.

The things we regret have been on our travels with us. We won't let them go. "What if?" we constantly nag ourselves. Put the nagging thought aside for a moment and look at the person you've become. Those feelings of regret have had some bearing in the way you are today, and is either positive or negative. An example might be a of a teenage girl who got pregnant and had to choose the life of near poverty over the road to higher education and a career. Has her life been wasted? Should she walk around with regrets? I think not. She has raised beautiful children and God has taught her strength, endurance, courage, and other traits she might not have gained otherwise. She has prevailed and how could she possibly have regrets? God takes our bad decisions, and works them for good. If we cannot find the blessings

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