by Daniel Creil

Created on: December 04, 2008

Why guest manners have gone bad? When this process started? Who is to blame? Can we learn how to be good guest as well as how to be a good host.

The reasons why we decide or accept to host somebody are different. Also different are reasons why somebody decides to be Your guest. Is it just for one evening or for one week, there is a following tendency: house guest manners become worse and worse.

It can be Your sister, mother in law or grandparents. They can be Your friends who live outside of the city. Or maybe it is Your work colleague who is just passing by this city and prefers to stay at Your place instead of booking a room in a hotel. In all these cases these people have decided to be Your guests. As soon as they enter Your house, they accept Your rules and must behave like a good guest is expected to behave.

Guest manners have gone bad because we don't go in guests so often. Or not so often how our ancestors used to do a long time ago. Instead of visiting somebody we prefer to lay down on the sofa and watch TV. Instead of asking to some of Your friends to become Your host we book a room in a hotel and choose not to disturb and trouble a person. Because of privacy matters. Both Your privacy and You host's. Because we all realize that we have forgotten what it means to be a good host and a good guest. We can`t be good guests if we never been good hosts.

Some examples in becoming a guest with bad manners are as follows: a. Asking too much attention b. Not being able to find something, weather it is a toilet or a battery recharger for a mobile phone c. Forgetting some of the good manners at the table: eat silently, don't talk too much or too less, don't eat to much or too less, tell Your host how delicious the food is, and so on. d. Not looking enough after our hygiene: clothes start to smell, or we put our shoes and socks right in the middle of a room. There are thousands and millions of books that teaches us how to become better person when we enter other person's house. Yes, but do we read them? No. Some free ebook are available on the web as well, and even more advices You can get from Your friends, relatives and work colleagues, but we feel so ashamed to admit that we `don't know how, that we prefer to do nothing. We don't ask and we don't look for chances of improvement.

So what could we do to make things better? Well, a good dose of humor might help, as through it You can slightly tell guest what You don't like in his manners. A good dose also helps to keep Your mood good and not to get too angry about small issues. And these issues are so many that be ready to become a very intelligent host with a huge dose of positive thinking and a large bag filled with joke for any situation You could possibly get into.

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