by Rhianna Suttie-Gunson

Created on: December 04, 2008   Last Updated: February 01, 2009

Entering the life of a parent is not something to be taken lightly. In fact it is something that requires great consideration. After all being a parent is a life long commitment. It requires dedication, consistency, patience and large amounts of understanding. It is a selfless, stressful, nerve wrecking and even at time heartbreaking life path. Of course it is also one of the most rewarding, joyous and beautiful experiences a couple can be blessed with.

So what are some of the considerations that need to be given before becoming a parent?
The first that comes to mind is the state of the couples relationship. While raising a child can successfully be accomplished by only one person, many studies have shown that two are preferable. Prospective parents need to consider their commitment to each other and the strength of their relationship. If there is any doubt that the relationship may not last for an extended period of time then perhaps parenting is not something to be entered into just yet.
Couples need to ensure that they are committed to each other, flexible and prepared to be tested. They need to be able to work together and provide support at all times. Introducing a baby into a relationship can at times prove to be more stressful than most realise. The dynamics are forever altered as suddenly there is a third entity that demands a great deal of attention and often at inopportune times. It is not uncommon for new fathers to feel left out of the equation as the baby becomes the central point in the mother's life. This is particularly true for husbands with a breastfeeding wife, as the once sexual breasts become a nutritional source.
When considering the relationship it is handy to take into account the ideologies and belief systems of each person. Of course it is probably assumed that you are already on the same wave lengths as each other however discussing how you plan to bring your children up is highly advisable.

Once due consideration has been given to the state of the prospective parents relationship has been given the next factors in need of some thought include financial security, housing stability and employment.

Children need a warm, safe and secure shelter to grow in. Is the current dwelling suitable for an expanding family? Is it in a family friendly location and somewhere children have the opportunity to thrive and live a healthy life? After all a lead painted apartment building next to an industrial power plant is not the ideal location to raise a

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