by PinayWriter

Created on: December 03, 2008   Last Updated: December 10, 2008

Beating the Shy Guy Factor

There is no such thing as a shy guy. That is the first thing that women have to take into consideration. If a guy is really into you then he would find a way to get your attention, albeit not as successfully as they would want it to be.

Whenever a guy comes up to a woman, he doesn't always say the right things. In his head he is actually pushing mental pictures of things that he wants to say and things that he wants to do. But if he is capable of getting his brain to work his motor skills, that doesn't mean he isn't shy by nature. The capacity of a man to get his fears in check is seen as confidence. Surely it is the same with most women. It is a perfectly natural thing.

Shyness is just an excuse to be afraid. If a man understand that in a room full of people, the likelihood of someone else who can get his fear of rejection in check would snag the girl that he has been looking at all night, then he would come up to her and say whatever comes out of his mouth.

It is a slightly more complicated to read men when they are in their brooding stages or when they are not much of a talker. This can be misconstrued as being the shy type. But the truth is there is just a need for his interest to come into play so that he would be able to get his game on. Trying to get a quiet guy to talk would require skill. They often find it frustrating that they can't join in the conversation because they are afraid that if they said anything about something that they know little about, the woman they want to hook up with would be disappointed.

Women can be so judgmental when it comes to their dates that it becomes even harder to get a word out of a supposedly shy guy. So try to enjoy the quiet and try to read his body language. If he is leaning back then he might be comfortable just listening. If he leans in to listen then he is interested but just can't put his thoughts into sentences that are less monosyllabic. If he seems like he is deep in thought then maybe he is worrying about something that has nothing to do with his present situation.

You just need to cut him some slack. If you are attentive to what you think is bothering him, then he might ease up and be able to step up. Don't pressure him into a topic he is not responding too. If you run out of things to say, then there is much to be said in shared silence.

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