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If you are a house wife living in a western country like US, where dating culture prevails and where getting separated and divorced is quite normal and frequent even for the flimsy reasons, your husband may not get offended when you reveal your romantic past and may just consider it as part and parcel of your culture and perhaps sometimes may even get quite amused.

But if your husband is possessive in nature, it is better to hide your romantic past than to reveal it to him, lest it my lead to unnecessary problems like arguments, bickering and even an irretrievable breakdown of your marriage. It is always better to forget the past rather than dwelling on them and live in the present. Besides, any small tiff that arises between you and your husband not only affects your family life but also it affects your children, since your disturbed mental equilibrium also infects your children that may lead to their lapse of concentration in their studies and other social activities.

If you happen to be a typical rural Indian wife, even before marriage a conscious effort is made to hide everything about your romantic past to your husband and in laws. Dating is unknown to Indian culture and people are very particular in maintaining the chastity of a woman as along as her husband lives alive. The chastity of a woman lies in maintaining the virginity of a girl prior to her marriage and once a woman gets married fidelity to her husband is considered very essential to maintain her chastity. When the life of a typical Indian woman is steeped in chastity and fidelity, you should be more careful not to divulge anything about your romantic past to your husband. The moment you divulge it to your husband, you may be considered as unchaste, impure and you may even go to the brink of your life. You can reveal your romantic past to your husband only when you have a complete understanding with him and when he is broadminded and very affectionate towards you.

Whether it is the western society or the typical Indian society, when you are in your teens there is every possibility for infatuation or flirting towards the opposite sex that may sometimes culminate into love and in extreme cases there is also scope for you to fall a prey to your sexual urge. You should not forget that your age and your inexperience had played havoc in your early life. Only great people can understand all these things. By this time you could have judged to what category your husband belongs. If he is really great, he can understand things and look at you sympathetically and consider you just as a human being. On the other hand if your husband is average, it is better not to divulge anything to him about your romantic past and fall a prey to your hoary past.

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