by David Swyer

Created on: December 02, 2008   Last Updated: March 18, 2009

What is wrong with this guy? Is he a shy guy, or is he just not interested in me?

Are you interested in a guy you think might be shy?

If you know such a chap who has those nice eyes, that thick beautiful hair and those very kissable lips and is just the right height for you, then I can tell you that there is a way to see if he is also interested in you.

For starters, do you ever catch him looking at you? If so, you have a foot in the door.

If that has not happened, the next thing for you to do is try to catch his eye and give him your best smile. Does he smile back or just blush and get embarrassed? Either way is good because shy guys get even shyer if a girl he is attracted to smiles at him. In this scenario, he now knows that you are aware of him and will be encouraged to meet you.

Just remember that shy guys are a different breed who responds in a whole other category of reactions. It is not really his fault. He is a prisoner of his own psychological hang ups.

Shy guys have no trouble speaking to girls whom do not stress him out. With women, whom he is not attracted to he feels free and very comfortable.

But, women who meet his standards of beauty and personality just knock him for a loop.

When such women look at him, speak to him or shows any interest in him, he becomes a stuttering, blushing bubblehead whose blood pressure, zooms to 400/310.

If he acts this way toward you, this is a good sign because it means he is definitely interested. Just remember that a shy guy can be the most enjoyable fun loving person around girls to whom he is not attracted. However, when he is close to the woman of his dreams, he freezes.

On the other hand, after he does actually meet that good looking girl that makes his heart beat a little faster and once he gets to spend some time with her he becomes comfortable. Then you will find he is sensitive and fun to be with. This kind of guy is more likely to be faithful as well.

If nothing else works, you may need to enlist the help of a friend or co-worker to meet this type of fellow. Just get another guy or girl to set up a fun get together which will include him. It would be best to go somewhere that serves drinks. A shy person loosens up very nicely after a couple of alcoholic refreshments.

Your plan will be to sit next to him or across from him where you can look at him with sweet eyes and smiles. You will probably have to start the conversation by asking him some general questions such as, where did you go to school, or where are you from? Try to find out what he is interested in and follow that lead. Smile a lot and feel free to touch him while talking. Touch a hand or arm. If a guy is attracted to you, he will like this. Mainly, you need to show him that you are approachable.

Who knows, this may be the start of a great relationship.

Learn more about this author, David Swyer.
Click here to send this author comments or questions.