There's nothing shy about a guy who wants a girl, unless the guy is not interested in a relationship with you. Greg Behrendt co-author of, "He's Just Not That Into You" says, "if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out." When a guy is into you, shy or sly he will pursue you. Set yourself free to find someone who will treasure you by first sorting out the trash. Here are some sure signs to help you tell the difference between a stinker and a keeper.
- If you're too good to be true, why can't he keep his eyes on you?
Guys who are not interested will have wondering eyes not just toward other women but the football game, their buddies and everything on you, except your eyes. If there's no eye-contact when you talk, there's no future beyond that conversation. Now, if a guy is silent but you keep catching him staring at you, stare back and start talking. He is probably just so in awe of you that he's speechless.
- It's nice that he always lets you make the plans, right?
Every Friday he calls but when you ask what you'll be doing, he'll say, "I don't know. What do you want to do?" This is a guy's way of saying, "I can't think of anything that I want to do with you, so it's your call." He may want you but that want will only last until something better comes along. If you find that you are planning more than being asked it's time to be receptive to new possibilities. Being open and nice is like sending out a radar for guys who really want to ask you out.
- Why is it that your timing is always off?
If he is too busy, too tired or too involved with his friends to be with you or call, it's time to hang it up. Guys who are not interested in you are always doing something that doesn't involve you. They also don't call, forget to call and make excuses. The next time you're tempted to pick up the phone to find out why Mr. Popular didn't call, dial your local movie theater instead and make your own plans for popcorn and a show. Mr. Right just might be right across the the aisle.
- Are you gazing while he talks about his future?
Snap out of it! It doesn't take a crystal ball to see into the future when a guy isn't into you. He will set plans and tell you about them, but you won't be in the picture. The plans might be small like, "I hang with my friends every Thursday", or the plans could be big like, "One day I'm going to buy a loft in Manhattan ". But notice the "I" statements. Guys learned early that there's no "I" in team, so this is a strong message that you're on the sidelines. A guy who likes you may not make long-term plans for the future, but you will definitely be a priority in his weekly schedule.
Next time you're into a guy smile, make eye contact and wait. If he's into you, he will take the bait and do everything in his power to keep you hooked. If he doesn't, switch roles, consider him a stinker and toss him back to the pool.