by Meagan Spain

Created on: December 01, 2008

As a parent or as an adult, we all know that there are constant decisions and choices to be made. Ranging from consequences to what is for supper, it is a never ending list. We all make multiple choices daily, so why not let our children in on the action?

Making a rules list is an easy way to have children assist in parenting decisions. Children learn the difference between right and wrong beginning at home. Parents could be the dictators that set the rules but letting the children in on the action gives them a sense of independence as well as inside information on what is expected of them. Make it a rules list that is posted somewhere in the house. Chances are pretty good that if the children help to make the rules list then they will likely remember it.

Consequences are something that all parents have to deal with. Which method of punishment or reinforcement is needed for this particular action or behavior. Children can help with the decision. Though they may not have the same response that you do, bargain with them. Work together to come up with a suitable consequence, one that the parent and the child agree upon.

Debate with your children. They have an opinion, we all know that. When something happens or a decision is made that they disagree with, feel free to discuss it with them. Give them your side of the issue and explain your reasonings behind what you decided. Let them tell you what they think and why. It will not only give them a sense of independence but it will begin to construct a bridge of open communication between parent and child.

Parents have the lucky pleasure of feeding everyone in the house on a daily basis. Let the children help with this process. From making a list of meals to the grocery shopping to the cooking the meals. It gives the children the opportunity to directly influence a daily part of family life, as well as giving them the chance to learn and grow. It may not seem like a big deal, however you are teaching your children a part of life that is necessary for them to survive later on.

Money and finances are constantly on many parents minds. Ranging from paying the bills to holidays to supplying the necessities in the house. Let the children in on it, at least the amount of money needed for certain things. Let the children clip coupons for groceries so that they know how much money they are helping you to save. Write the bills on the calender, the amount due, what the bill is, and the date that it is due. Children see it and read it. It gives them the chance to participate indirectly.

Children are people to and they live in your house with you. Work with them. They may have their own ideas on how to help with making parents decisions; possibly ranging from how to decorate the house to different money saving ideas.

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