Flirtation signals that encourage the opposite sex
by Lorelei Cohen
Single, lonely, and want to attract some attention from members of the opposite sex? Not sure how to go about it or even how to identify who is single and who isn't? Relax in the fact that you are not alone. There are millions of other people out there just like you.
Flirting just isn't a skill that most of us were born with, or one that we were generally taught as we aged, so learning to flirt can take a little practice to get right. It is also not an exact science, so it may take a little time to learn how to flirt effectively, and to learn to identify the signs when someone is flirting back at you.
Like most other things in life we just have to keep trying, practice makes perfect, and with a little trial and error you will get your method of flirting figured out. As you receive a few positive signs back, you will become more confident and comfortable with your technique. Just don't allow yourself to be frustrated to the point that you give up. Allow yourself the time that you need to successfully learn how to flirt.
We have feelings, and they sometimes get hurt, it is all a part of being human. Keep in mind that a little insecurity is okay, just don't let it take over, or you will never have the chance to succeed at the things that you want most in this life.
Remember that the number one rule of flirtation is "eye contact", feeling someone else looking at us, does get our attention. Most of us have at one time or another had the experience or feeling that someone is staring at us, and it does cause us to look around, to see who it is. Having eye contact with the person that you wish to encourage in your direction is the main key to beginning communication with them. Once you have their eyes focused on you, you are already halfway through succeeding in your quest, you have that "person of interest" looking at you. You have their attention!
From this starting point, you then need to determine if they are single, and if so, are they available? You must also discover if there is the remotest chance that they might want to learn more about you, and if there is, then you need to encourage this interest in you. In other words, it is time to turn on the charm! Keep in mind that practicing this is a good thing!
Spend time in front of your mirror at home learning to smile, and not only with your lips, but also with your eyes. Try making your eyes dance in humor, try them in a complimentary stance, or just to say that you are confident within yourself. Raise one eyebrow in just a hint of an invitation to see if it is a look that compliments you. Perhaps a questioning rising of both eyebrows? Would this look like an invitation to that person?
Try different mock poses of expression to see how they look on you. You don't want to look unnatural, or like some scary stalker type person, you just want to increase your attractiveness to others. You want to know how to flirt. You want to look intriguing enough that the other person will want to learn more about you. They have your interest and now you want to get them interested in you. You can tell when you have even remotely succeeded in this task, as they will then continue to glance in your direction, they will be watching you. Take advantage of your opportunity to now show yourself off.
Smile, and don't forget to put it in your eyes, make yourself sparkle. Use what you have been practicing in front of the mirror at home. Show this person exactly how attractive, interesting, and intelligent you are. If you get a scowl in return of your efforts, then you might just be out of luck, but if there is even the smallest hint of amusement or interest then you know that your flirtation is working. You get to keep flirting! You stand a chance of meeting this person, a chance of getting to know this person a little better, and even a chance of possibly dating this person.
While you are developing your flirting style just keep a few things uppermost in your mind. Practice, practice, practice to get your technique, and confidence levels at a level that you can feel comfortable with. Remember that you are human, you are allowed to screw up, and flirting is not an exact science. Be natural, enough practice will make your smile, and your desired expressions or poses come more easily. Flirt with yourself in the mirror so you will see what the other person sees.
Then get out there and don't let that next opportunity pass you by.
Be confident. Be attractive. Be sexy. Be you.