by Luke Mcclure

Created on: November 30, 2008   Last Updated: March 05, 2009

With the internet, access to pornography is easier then ever and its viewing has become common place. The fact that this question need even be asked is evidence of that. The fact that more people voted YES to this question is proof. I would be lying if I said I was not tempted by pornography, even as a married man, but the truth is, my love for my wife over powers my temptation. The idea that men should be allowed to watch porn with the approval of their wives is an insult to men and women.

For men it's as if we are so pathetic we cannot control ourselves. Is discipline completely lost? Where is self control? Are we not man enough to do the right thing even if it is more difficult? Is it impossible for a man to love his wife and her body more then those of others, even if he must train himself to do so? I know the excuses for why men should be allowed to watch pornography: because we are allegedly more sexually driven, because it can allegedly enhance our sex lives, because our wives allegedly do not fully satisfy us sexually. These arguments are pathetic. Want more sex from your wife? Get off your ass and do the dishes every once in a while. Want to enhance your sex life? Spend more time being romantic, read a book, or just practice. What happened to perusing your wife, wooing her, winning her over?

For women, the idea that you would have to tolerate a husband who views other women naked engaged in sexual activity for his own personal gratification is a step back to the days of polygamy and concubines. Allowing pornography in your home is allowing objectification of your sex, to be viewed as nothing more then a tool or piece of property. The excuse that justifies porn because, "At least he isn't having an actual affair", is nonsense. The fact of the matter is that your husband is viewing other women for his sexual pleasure and therefore has not forsaken all others and is not committed to you and only you. Any woman who knows she is more then an object should take a stand against a fool ridiculous enough to even suggest pornography be allowed.

How dare anyone make a commitment to love and cherish, until death do you part, forsaking all others, go back on this promise by watching pornography. It lowers you, and while in fact you think it may bring satisfaction, this is only short term because your sex life, real sex, as well as your marriage and the lessons you teach your children will suffer immensely.

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