by Tiffany Lott

Created on: November 28, 2008

It seems as though sometimes change is something that is not widely accepted, but swaying from tradition does not always have to be a bad thing. Are you having trouble choosing your Best Man? Could it possibly be because he is not a man at all, but a woman? Why should this be so difficult? It shouldn't have to be; however, here are some things to consider:

1. What will people say if I am standing up there between two women? Does it really matter? It is YOUR wedding! If the person you are choosing for your Best Woman (or Best Person if you prefer) is close enough to you that you want to ask her to take on this honor, then most likely your family and friends are already be accustomed to this relationship, and possibly even expect it to happen.

2. Is this strictly a platonic relationship? Granted, your Best Woman may be a family member, in which case you may proceed to the next consideration.

I am a woman, and each time I have had a close friendship with a male, I have always held some kind of strong feeling for him whether I mentioned it or not. I am now actually married to my best friend who instigated the relationship, and personally think that is a great qualification to look for in your mate. But you have obviously already chosen, and I am by no means suggesting you dump your wife for your best friend, only to examine the relationship and be certain that you are making the decision you can live with for the rest of your life.

3. Is your soon-to-be-bride okay with the idea? You and your bride should be the only opinions you feel obligated to consider when making this decision. The fact that your wife and Best Person get along is pertinent. You will be left in a world full of heartache if there is conflict between the two. Women are very emotional, and if there is ever tension between your wife and best friend, you obviously could not appease either party without severe consequences.

4. Where will she stand? She would stand by YOU, Silly! She's there to support you. A Best Man would stand by you; a Best Woman should hold the same honor.

5. What will she wear? This is something you as a groom should not worry about. Allow your bride to choose the Best Person's attire so that it will appropriately accent your other Groomsmen.

After asking yourself these questions, you should feel much more confident about your decision. Congratulations!

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