by Danyelle Scroggins

Created on: November 28, 2008

When left at the altar, you cope with "Thankfulness." Even though, you might feel neglected, misused, or even misled, your feelings of gratefulness should over weigh each of these. Sounds a little far fetched but believe me, you had better realize that nothing just happens in your life.

Think about it, if you really knew the person you were marrying, he or she would have never left you standing there. This leads me to believe that there were some things going on with this person that you really had no clue about. Now, ask yourself this question....Would I be happy married to someone who has secrets? If you're like me, the answer would be, "NO!"

I will never forget the year one of my cousins was left at the altar. Although everyone else felt bad for her, secretly housing feelings of shame, I was happy. I was happy that for whatever reason, God caused this monster to run. Whatever took place in his heart that made him decide not to show up, was probably the best thing that could have ever happened for her. I really wish that more people would just not show up. If you know that you aren't ready for the commitment that awaits, the love that must be shared, and the devotion to only one person, then it's best that you don't show up.

It may sound a little less compassionate than you think it should but in reality, I say this with great compassion for you. You are probably the best thing that could have happened to the other person. Nevertheless, if they don't realize that they have something good, what use is it in having it? Good things only work in your life when you know that they are there. You will treat whatever it is according to how you feel its worth. So just maybe, God protected you from being treated like a something instead of a someone; as someone special. When people's heart aren't in the right place concerning you, they tend to hurt you. Remember, no man knows the heart, but God does.

So, would you rather be left at the altar or spend your life with someone who doesn't care about you? My answer and I hope your answer would be, "Baby leave me at the altar!" I can make the money back that I spent on the wedding, I can even allow the guest to still enjoy a good party, but what I can't do is get back the time I would have wasted on a marriage that was already doomed in my partner's heart.

So my friend, you cope with being left at the altar, by being thankful. Thankful that God cared enough about you not to let you waste your precious moments on earth. Thankful that there's another opportunity for you to be found or find someone who will be considered a blessing. Thankful that you didn't have to suffer through secrets of a disenchanted heart. Most of all, thankful that now its over, you realize how thankful you really should be.

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