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level of personal experience.

But, many women have had their fill of "bad boys". They've come to realize that "bad boys" are selfish, dishonest, unfaithful, and in may cases, have low self-esteem. They follow the crowd to be "cool", but rarely have an awareness of their own identity. They see women only as a sexual opportunity, but are threatened by the idea of monogamy and responsibility. To many women, "nice guys" have become a much more attractive alternative.

There are a number of misconceptions about which characteristics make up a nice guy. Nice guys are usually thought of as inept geeks with limited social interaction skills, or introverted "choir boys" with impeccable manners and slow to make a move.

He's the kind of guy who seems more like your brother than a potential lover. Someone who is safe and non-threatening. He's the guy that your parents would love, but not the guy who could satisfy your occasional wild streak or rock your world. He's seen as a guy who would make a good husband for someone, but not as someone exciting or adventurous. Essentially, he's the guy who women talk to when the are having problems with their "bad boy".

But, nice guys have also come a long way, Baby. Nice guys are now able to continue being that rock of stability, while letting go of inhibitions and being more adventurous. They have learned to accept a woman for who she is, looking well beyond the surface of her physical attributes and into the soul of who she is a an individual. Nice guys can treat women with respect in public, and like a freak in the bedroom. And, they've transformed themselves from being nerds into studs, while still maintaining their own identities.

Isn't that really what a woman wants in a man?

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