by Mindee Bocangel

Created on: November 26, 2008

A daughter's place in this world is first shaped at home. While families may experience changes and stresses, a daughter who has been loved and reared can be a joy and treasure through the times of trial. As a daughter begins to develop her personality, she will depend on the references made by her role models. The world will be as big as her imagination is and as far as her mentors can take her. A healthy daughter is likely resilient. That is the nature of survival. Any daughter who is given as many opportunities to learn and also be heard as likely to strengthen in her own identity. Time is key. When a little girl asks if she can help, a question because of her friends at school, about something she wants that stretches your limits or break you rules, simply giving in or refusing is an option to handle and control, but is it the best way to handle her?

Girls are allowed to be thoughtful and are allowed to string together with their own words what they are thinking at any age. Prodding questions and support and listening certainly takes time love and skill, but will pay you back the rewards.

Children respond to their environment. They have strengths and weaknesses. Knowing deeply your child's personality and remembering that they will have a turn at adulthood could be a motivating reminder for any parent to stay the course on their rules, but at the same time allow a child's insight. You may be amazed at the insights a child can come up with so long as they are allowed a platform from which they are permitted to develop in to their own true person.

Questions about methods of discipline embodies a wide scope of beliefs. Just as pro-life and pro choice do. Answers to questions about discipline range from the most Utopian to the most restrictive.What may help a parent to find their own best solution is to ask yourself what did you agree with or disagree with as a child in reference to your own parents rearing methods.Working on one's own personal issues will prove to be a great enabler for you to become the ideal parent who you wish to be.Getting to know your child well and more than any one else will help you find confidence in your own words with them as you walk the path of parenthood and find your way.Volunteering at organizations that promote healthy child development can be a great way to gain knowledge that you may be able to take home with you. Places such as schools, churches, big brother big sister, special Olympics and more.

Hearing other peoples experiences can allow you to reflect on your own progress. Remember that you have an identity that goes beyond working to pay the bills and sacrificing to feed the kids. There are plenty of hugs to share and stories to read. Even if you are the least likely to put yourself out there and become a supermom or super dad, either because it costs time and money that you don't have, remember that you are always being looked up to. It is O.k to make mistakes and try new things and ask yourself what works what doesn't. You don't have to stick to one way. You can try on many different hats until you find what best suits you and your child.

The personality that you have plus the personality that your child has is a unique combination when put together. Leave it up to you and your child to learn and grow together. Find the answers to a better way together. You can find your own best way.

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