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Nobody that walks out of surviving domestic violence is quite normal. Don't take that statement the wrong way. Any person who survives through something as traumatic as that needs to get professional help in order to cope. Here are four tips on surviving domestic violence.

Learn to say no

Whenever you are uncomfortable in any situation learn to say no. No is a complete sentence with no explanation needed from you if others ask you why. You have the right to walk out of any situation at any given time you feel like it. You don't have to explain why you are leaving. It is okay to even tell a little white lie here and there. It is nobody's business as to why you make the decisions that you do. Never feel guilty for walking out of a place despite how many minutes you have been there or who you came to the place with. You have the freedom to leave and you have the right to use it.

Stay in Therapy

Your therapy is your only hope to cope with surviving domestic violence. Your therapist is the only person on the earth who can help you the best even more than you can yourself. You need to give your therapist a chance to help you overcome being a survivor of domestic violence so it won't bother your life anymore. Therapy is there to help those who really want to leave the bad situation. Don't waste your therapist time if you aren't serious about overcoming a survivor of domestic violence.

Don't go back to the abuser

This happens over and over again the once a survivor often goes back to the abuser. She feels like that she can't live without him. Sometimes he is only person that she knows since she was young and she feels like she can't just leave him. Some of them go back because they feel that they can not make it on their own unless they have help from somewhere. Some of them don't realize that they can go to college on their own and have the state pay for daycare and student loans along with grants to pay for most of college. There is hope to overcome being a survivor of domestic violence only if you are willing to take the chance to try to change your life around instead of playing the victim role all your time.

Find a new man

You may be able to find a new man after you've been in therapy for a while. The beginning may be a little rough learning to trust again, but eventually you will begin to heal. You need to realize that not every man out there is going to beat you up or hurt you. I know it is hard to believe despite everything that one has been through over and over. The self esteem is so low that one wonders how they can go on from day to day cause of the domestic violence she has suffered for many years. Hopefully, you will find a nice gentleman and marry him. You might have the perfect wedding of your dreams and a wonderful honeymoon to celebrate about.

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