Being a single person for most of my life, I have come to realize that it does have its benefits. This is provided that being single is treated seriously and maturely. I have seen single people that never understood or grasped the freedom and liberation of being single. Instead, they have sulked about not having a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I was always curious on why they were mainly focused on fighting "someone."
One ex-friend told me that his first priority was getting a girlfriend. I was curious on why he was wasting his time. He told me that he wanted a girlfriend mainly for the sex. I simply told him to just have a bunch of one-night stands or friends with benefits. But no, he strictly told me that he should get a girlfriend. Also, he was egging me to get a girlfriend.
But, I did not relent. He on the other hand continued to put getting a girlfriend as his first priority.
Plus, he came to me for advice. I would give him advice. But, he would throw it back into my face. Yet, he could come back at me with all these rants. I could not bear to deal with that stuff. So, I had to stop talking to him. Plus, I heard he stooped to new lows the following year.
Apparently, his number one priority continued to find a girlfriend. He had resorted buying women's worn panties off of eBay. This was what he resorted to.
Me on the other hand, I relished being single. When I look at it, being single has a whole ton of benefits. It would seem that they outweigh the benefits of being in a relationship.
Here are some of the benefits I discovered of being single:
Money:
Depending on pace of the relationship, it is unknown how much money you be spending on your significant other. I have heard about friends buying their significant others a whole bunch of expensive gifts. I remember back in my freshman year of high school, a classmate who was dating a friend of a friend bought her a pair of shoes that cost over one hundred dollars.
Remember, not all relationships end up in marriage. Most relationships end without marriage. Over time, both partners may separate and go their own ways. Before that, it is unknown how much money they spent on one another. The amount of money spent could range between hundreds to thousands of dollars.
Relationships are expensive.
Remember, not all relationships do work out.
When I look at it, not being in a relationship saves me a lot of money. Instead of spending money on a significant other, I can use that money for other things.
I can invest in stocks, funds, and assets. Afterwards, the money will turn into more money over time. Relationships will only siphon your cash. If the significant other is a manipulator, say goodbye to most if not all of your cash.
I was able to use the cash on many different things: drinks at the bar (when it was not expensive to drink at the bar), video games, clothes, food, movie tickets, anime, and Magic the Gathering cards. I've been buying a lot of MTG cards lately. If I was in a relationship, I probably would not be able to afford buying MTG cards.
Overall, I do not have to worry about expenses.
Plus, I do not have to deal with a person that gets a say on what I can use the money on.
Relationship Drama:
All relationships have some sort of drama. From what I have seen and learned, relationships take a lot of dedication and commitment. If you are goal and/or career oriented, you should not be in a relationship. To be goal and/or career oriented, you would have to dedicate most of your time to what you are doing.
Your significant other may cause you drama because you are not paying enough attention to him/her.
Chances are, your significant other can and will leave you. Or, s/he might end up sleeping around behind your back.
Over the last few years, I became very career oriented. I had come to the realization of what I wanted to do. I have realized the importance of the goals I would have to accomplish in order to make my dreams and aspirations come true. I would have to put full focus into achieving those goals.
If I was in a relationship, I would not be able to focus that much on my goals.
Travel:
As a benefit of being single, I can travel around the world and to learn and experience new things.
I do feel the liberation of being able to travel around. When I am learning and experiencing new things on my own, I feel very much alive.
I found that I am content by not being content.
Plus, I would not have to worry about my significant other thinking that I am "neglecting" her. There is also the "trust" issue. She can assume that I am sleeping around with other women.
Also, while I am travelling, my significant other could be sleeping around. I have had friends with significant others that did that kind of stuff.
Travelling around, I do not have to check in with my significant other.
Learning New Things:
By being single, I have used that opportunity to learn and explore new things. I accumulated a wealth of knowledge and experience that makes me a wiser person. Because of that, I am more grounded than ever. I have found a calling in life. I have found new perspective in regards to world and life in general.
Instead of having to spend time with a significant other, I can use that time learning new things and exploring new horizons.
With all that said, these are the benefits of being single.