Being complete as a man without a woman, now that is an interesting predicament. I do feel that a man does not need a companion to be complete.
That is just my take on the notion.
However, I do have to ask: Do you want to be complete? That would equate to being "full." Being complete would mean that we stop learning and evolving. Overall, it means that we are done for.
Being complete means to be content with what you have. It makes me think of this episode of "Heroes." There is the scene in which Mr. Linderman tells Nathan Petrelli this: "You see, I think there comes a time when a man has to ask himself whether he wants a life of happiness or a life of meaning."
Nathan answers: "I'd like to have both."
Linderman answers: "It can't be done. Two very different paths. I mean, to be truly happy a man must live absolutely in the present, and with no thought of what's gone before, and no thought of what lies ahead. But a life of meaning, a man is condemned to wallow in the past, and obsess about the future."
To be complete meaning being "content" with what you have. However, being complete and being content are two different things. There are many other things than having a woman that can make a person complete. But again: Do I want to be complete?
It is an interesting paradox because we are driven to be complete. Yet, once we attain completion, we are empty. You have nothing to keep you going.
It makes me think of the fighting game and anime series "Street Fighter." In one of the stories, the Emperor of Muay Thai Sagat ends up defeating the legendary Japanese warrior Ryu.
Ryu had handed Sagat his first loss.
He shattered Sagat's "perfection."
At the end, Sagat had felt emptiness inside of him. He had lost the very spark that had kept him going.
In this regard, it made Sagat complete. He did not need a woman to make himself feel complete at all.
I do consider myself to be a free spirit. I find the aspect of being single to be liberating. I can go whatever direction I want to. I do not have someone to yanking me on a leash.
Like many others, perhaps I am looking to be "complete." I do know that having a woman will not make me complete. Then again, we all have that one spark that beckons us to seek completion.
I myself am a living paradox. To me, I feel complete by not being complete. But, I cannot say it goes the other way around. I do not feel complete by being "complete." Still, I do know that I am not complete.
It is hard to explain, though.
As a person between being a boy and a man, I know that I am not complete. I still have a lot of things left on my list. Finding a woman let alone love is not something on my list.
The last few years, I have been giving a massive awakening in life and society.
Before that, I was directionless. I had no idea what I wanted to do. I was searching for something to make me complete. I spent the last year exploring many possibilities. I learned and experienced new things. I continued to educate myself on many things.
All my knowledge and experience had started to ground me. But, I had still yet to find an outlet to focus everything into. About two years ago, I found that outlet.
Perhaps this is the one thing that will put me on the path of completion. Maybe I will not necessarily find completion.
But, it established that I can be complete without companionship, let alone companionship with a woman. I have learned what I am truly capable of. Being single has helped me focus on what I want and need to do. For the first time, I have gotten a grasp on my aspirations and dreams.
If I achieve those, perhaps I will be complete.
There are times where I feel lonely and want companionship. But, I look back at what I want to achieve. I look back at the trigger of whatever keeps me going. I found my own path. I am strong enough to walk that path on my own. I feel a surge of energy when I walk that path.
On the path of completion, I feel like Solid Snake on his own fighting against Metal Gear. I feel like Ryu fighting against M. Bison. There are so many different analogies I can make.
There are many things we can obtain in life to make us "complete." Having a woman is not necessarily one of them. My inner warrior is calling out to tackle new challenges. When I look at it all, I do not need the companionship of a woman to be complete. By realizing that revelation, I feel free, I feel liberated, and I feel very much alive.
The realization of not needing a woman to help me be complete has given me newfound will and determination in accomplishing in what I want to do in life. It is like a line said by Spike Spiegel of "Cowboy Bebop:" "I'm watching a dream I'll never wake up from."
A man does not necessary need a woman to be complete and vice-versa. Me on the other hand, I do not want to be complete. To be complete is the alpha of your omega. This is translated into the "beginning of your end.
For the last few weeks, I have been having recurring dreams in which I was flying. It was kind of like self-propelled flight. I feel very alive knowing I can "fly" to my destination without the need for a companion.