by Can Tran

Created on: November 24, 2008

Being complete as a man without a woman, now that is an interesting predicament. I do feel that a man does not need a companion to be complete.
That is just my take on the notion.
However, I do have to ask: Do you want to be complete? That would equate to being "full." Being complete would mean that we stop learning and evolving. Overall, it means that we are done for.

Being complete means to be content with what you have. It makes me think of this episode of "Heroes." There is the scene in which Mr. Linderman tells Nathan Petrelli this: "You see, I think there comes a time when a man has to ask himself whether he wants a life of happiness or a life of meaning."

Nathan answers: "I'd like to have both."

Linderman answers: "It can't be done. Two very different paths. I mean, to be truly happy a man must live absolutely in the present, and with no thought of what's gone before, and no thought of what lies ahead. But a life of meaning, a man is condemned to wallow in the past, and obsess about the future."

To be complete meaning being "content" with what you have. However, being complete and being content are two different things. There are many other things than having a woman that can make a person complete. But again: Do I want to be complete?

It is an interesting paradox because we are driven to be complete. Yet, once we attain completion, we are empty. You have nothing to keep you going.

It makes me think of the fighting game and anime series "Street Fighter." In one of the stories, the Emperor of Muay Thai Sagat ends up defeating the legendary Japanese warrior Ryu.
Ryu had handed Sagat his first loss.
He shattered Sagat's "perfection."
At the end, Sagat had felt emptiness inside of him. He had lost the very spark that had kept him going.

In this regard, it made Sagat complete. He did not need a woman to make himself feel complete at all.

I do consider myself to be a free spirit. I find the aspect of being single to be liberating. I can go whatever direction I want to. I do not have someone to yanking me on a leash.

Like many others, perhaps I am looking to be "complete." I do know that having a woman will not make me complete. Then again, we all have that one spark that beckons us to seek completion.

I myself am a living paradox. To me, I feel complete by not being complete. But, I cannot say it goes the other way around. I do not feel complete by being "complete." Still, I do know that I am not complete.

It is hard to explain, though.

As a person between being a boy and

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