by Budianto Dermawan Ng

Created on: November 22, 2008

It's you.

Finding a soulmate or a real love, obviously depends on ourself. Even though there were many writings or books mentioning about how to tit for tat, but that doesn't mean it's valid for everyone. Propaganda or marketing purpose may be lived inside book's publishing. Who knows it's the right one?

The biggest barrier involved of nobody, but us. For an example, if you think you're partner as if he/she is cheating -not by wet-caught-, who knows if it's the fact or not. Nobody, because even the spoilers had the other face of chance, for achieving something. Remember, not all our friends agreed for our relationship with our partner.

Friends, some of them may like our partner, but not all. There will be a bit percentage who may dislike either. Family and relatives, a mouth-word, when it's spreading too far, sometimes it procreates the biggest nightmare for both of you. However, true love is exist or not, that's all depending on oneself. If he/she manifestates the same positive thought -that he/she had that occasion-, then he/she deserves for a genuine love part. Else, considering about having for another new relationship.

An expectation for a perfert partner, is rather quite a dream, if you didn't fix yourself, emotionally. But that doesn't mean you must surrender whole part to your partner. It's very imprerative be done, that in a relationship, both were sharing "in a swing" of equaled sharing. Without it, nobody can guarantee you to have one, the real love.

Love doesn't come by itself, chemical connection was a novel or TV serial drama. In those, what you saw, were just tiny part if they're adapted to our whole story of life. Because publishers thought, that making a teenage love-story will print out money better, rather than boring-soap opera about old man/couple. One reason, a pursue, which will create an adrenaline-rush for whomever watch their movies.

Last word, if you always manifestated the thought, the barrier, then you will never find one. Actually, the barrier is yourself. When you start to blockade another opinion, that's the dawn of relationship fall. Criticizing and self-introspecting were the only shield to defend relationship from curiosity's sword. Briefly, whoever can answer this -truly-, is only by yourself.

For a reference, how deep is your connection to God, reflects of how much the trust you put with Him. That's one of the description to frame your relationship either is a true love, or merely a friendship.

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