by Dan Keizer

Created on: November 21, 2008

Figuring out if your guy is cheating is pretty easy. A man that's cheating isn't going to reinvent the wheel when he has his girl on the side. They basically all do the same stuff, hide things the same way and make the same excuses. This isn't rocket science, if you can't spot it when it's happening you're either in denial or not the sharpest tool in the shed.

One thing that should be obvious is if he dresses up more than usual, or changes his "style" in some way. If a dude was just going to stick with you he wouldn't have to dress up, he could just walk around looking like a scrub and be OK. Guys dress up when they're looking to catch some trim, so unless he's got a job interview scheduled or something consider him cheating.

In that same train of thought, if the guy starts showering more he's definitely got something going on. Just like with the clothes, if he was just dating you he could probably go two or three days without washing up and not worry about it. But with a new girl he can't walk around smelling bad, so he's going to be in the bathroom more often. Also watch out if he insists on showering as soon as he gets home from a night out, he's trying to wash off the scent of a woman. Just saying.

Another red flag to look out for is if he won't take you to certain places, or stops taking you out with certain people. Obviously it's because he's worried that you'll run into his other girl, or that somebody will there will ruin his little secret. Don't buy into his excuses about just not wanting to go someplace, or whatever he says. If he's selective about where you can or cannot go together, he's cheating on you.

The best way to make sure your man is cheating is to go through his cell phone. Read all the texts going in and out, look at all the picture mail, listen to his voice messages if you can. Look through the phone book and see if there's a girl in there you don't know. Don't have any scruples about snooping, it's better to sneak around a little bit then end up with herpes from the slut he's banging behind your back.

If you do end up coming up with some pretty hard evidence and confront him, his reaction can betray him as well. If you lay it all out for him and he blows you off with something like, "You're crazy," or whatever then he's definitely cheating. That's just him attempting to downplay your common sense so don't fall for it. Don't fall for any of the stupid excuses he makes up either, just DTMFA and move on with your life.

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